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First, I'll start by saying "another UA thread ." I know. Sorry. But I didn't find any threads that relate to my situation.
Here's my story.
I left for USMC boot in December. Graduated that in March, cake. Went through SOI (which is when I should have left.) SOI gave me a pretty good idea of what the real Corps is. But I went through with it because the whole time in SOI you hear "it gets better in the fleet" and all that.
So I get to the fleet. By this time I realize it's too late for an entry level seperation. All of a sudden I'm getting all this weight carried on my shoulder. I'm sad all the time. And I hate to say that because I never thought I would be "the one." Not only that, but I really suck at hiking. I have girl feet, most of them say. Put more than 30lbs on my back and half a mile later both my feet will be covered in huge blisters. I feel like I'm doing everyone a favor by not being there. I would be combat ineffective.
I took appropriate action. I went through my chain of command (which reached about 2 people high) that I need to speak with a chaplain. Never happened. I also did this at SOI. Never happened. In the military I just always felt so down about everything. It also made me realize how stupid this war is. And although I support the people in it, I will never support the war itself.
I've talked to the GI Rights Hotline. They don't know too much about the USMC. One guy even told me to drug pop upon return. I'm sure there are better routes to take.
In 5 days I will hit my 30 mark. I don't really understand "Desserter" status. I read this forum and see packages, dfr, and all that. Would be helpful if someone could explain
When I left I had no intentions on ever returning (which probably wasn't the best intention) so I made it pretty obvious. I packed every personal belonging I had. I laid out my CIF gear (which was probably stolen since Marines can't keep track of anything.) I took my ID with me. And my BDUs, just in case I was to return. I simply took a cab to the airport and flew out. I told the cab driver I was going on recruiter's assistance.
I told everyone here at home I'm on medical leave. When they see my feet it's very understandable, so that's what everyone thinks. I'm not telling anyone I'm UA. I just don't know what to say, especially to my family, when that time finally comes around. Anyone else do this?
Another thing, I just want to go to college and live a normal life. I obviously can't go to college while I'm UA. I just want OUT. What really sucks is I basically unpacked everything. I took an entire seabag + some other bags home. When I go back would I have to bring everything again?
Here's another problem. I have a huge feeling no matter what my unit would keep me. We deploy in Fall. They want numbers. Actually, someone in our unit went UA on their last deployment. He stayed home the entire time they were deployed. Then he came back when they did. The only thing that happened to him was he was thrown back in our unit and he got 1 stripe taken away. Big deal. He will probably go UA again for this one as well. He told me.
And even another problem..money. I can't afford to get back to NC. Not only that, but I'd be afraid to fly with my status. I don't drive and no one is going to take me to NC. I obviously can't get a job and save up to take a bus back or anything. I mean my family is dead broke, I'm not ashamed to say I come from nothing.
My question is, when should I return if I want out? Remember, I'm in permanent duty. I've considered remaining a desserter for the rest of my contract, what would that do? Sorry for the long detailed post, but I wanted the best advice as possible. Thank you for reading.
edit: Forgot to mention. Since I left my cell phone has been off the hook with pretty much my entire chain of command contacting me. Telling me to come back. Offering to help me when I return, saying if I need to speak with a chaplain they'll set me up and all that. I think going UA made my point pretty clear, and although I hate to say it, it seems like they're crawling at my feet. I never answer it of course, it's all voicemails. And I should probably get my number changed.
First, I'll start by saying "another UA thread ." I know. Sorry. But I didn't find any threads that relate to my situation.
Here's my story.
I left for USMC boot in December. Graduated that in March, cake. Went through SOI (which is when I should have left.) SOI gave me a pretty good idea of what the real Corps is. But I went through with it because the whole time in SOI you hear "it gets better in the fleet" and all that.
So I get to the fleet. By this time I realize it's too late for an entry level seperation. All of a sudden I'm getting all this weight carried on my shoulder. I'm sad all the time. And I hate to say that because I never thought I would be "the one." Not only that, but I really suck at hiking. I have girl feet, most of them say. Put more than 30lbs on my back and half a mile later both my feet will be covered in huge blisters. I feel like I'm doing everyone a favor by not being there. I would be combat ineffective.
I took appropriate action. I went through my chain of command (which reached about 2 people high) that I need to speak with a chaplain. Never happened. I also did this at SOI. Never happened. In the military I just always felt so down about everything. It also made me realize how stupid this war is. And although I support the people in it, I will never support the war itself.
I've talked to the GI Rights Hotline. They don't know too much about the USMC. One guy even told me to drug pop upon return. I'm sure there are better routes to take.
In 5 days I will hit my 30 mark. I don't really understand "Desserter" status. I read this forum and see packages, dfr, and all that. Would be helpful if someone could explain
When I left I had no intentions on ever returning (which probably wasn't the best intention) so I made it pretty obvious. I packed every personal belonging I had. I laid out my CIF gear (which was probably stolen since Marines can't keep track of anything.) I took my ID with me. And my BDUs, just in case I was to return. I simply took a cab to the airport and flew out. I told the cab driver I was going on recruiter's assistance.
I told everyone here at home I'm on medical leave. When they see my feet it's very understandable, so that's what everyone thinks. I'm not telling anyone I'm UA. I just don't know what to say, especially to my family, when that time finally comes around. Anyone else do this?
Another thing, I just want to go to college and live a normal life. I obviously can't go to college while I'm UA. I just want OUT. What really sucks is I basically unpacked everything. I took an entire seabag + some other bags home. When I go back would I have to bring everything again?
Here's another problem. I have a huge feeling no matter what my unit would keep me. We deploy in Fall. They want numbers. Actually, someone in our unit went UA on their last deployment. He stayed home the entire time they were deployed. Then he came back when they did. The only thing that happened to him was he was thrown back in our unit and he got 1 stripe taken away. Big deal. He will probably go UA again for this one as well. He told me.
And even another problem..money. I can't afford to get back to NC. Not only that, but I'd be afraid to fly with my status. I don't drive and no one is going to take me to NC. I obviously can't get a job and save up to take a bus back or anything. I mean my family is dead broke, I'm not ashamed to say I come from nothing.
My question is, when should I return if I want out? Remember, I'm in permanent duty. I've considered remaining a desserter for the rest of my contract, what would that do? Sorry for the long detailed post, but I wanted the best advice as possible. Thank you for reading.
edit: Forgot to mention. Since I left my cell phone has been off the hook with pretty much my entire chain of command contacting me. Telling me to come back. Offering to help me when I return, saying if I need to speak with a chaplain they'll set me up and all that. I think going UA made my point pretty clear, and although I hate to say it, it seems like they're crawling at my feet. I never answer it of course, it's all voicemails. And I should probably get my number changed.
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