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Chandra
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I understand that this is only advice, and if I do end up needing a lawyer I will contact them. I am just
thinking about my future and would like some advice about my situation, please. I have a fiance of 4 months that uses crack/cocaine. I am 4 months pregnant. Before I got engaged to him he was in a treatment center and I was aware of that, but he told me it was for alcohol. Anyway, after he left TX to join me in Virginia to get married, we got an apartment. It was in my name because he has bad credit. When he showed signs of drug use, (not coming home until late at night, saying he was going to his AA meetings but not going, he took
$200 from our dresser one time, he would come home and get a little bit of cash and run back out, and he constantly denies the drug use) I asked him to leave. He is living with his sister, I believe, but who knows.
He became angry about this and has threatened me saying that he can take the baby because I can't afford good lawyers like he can. He is a dentist, and conceals this insanity all during the day. By night, he causes me mental and emotional stress. He has also left me with bills, which he could well cover in 1 week or 2, if he wanted to. They are an unpaid for engagement ring and a cell phone which both are in my name. I had to turn his cell phone off. He calls me each day to say he'll bring by the money and never show up. He has a pattern of this. I told him not to call me anymore and he said I would never get the $ he owes me if he can't talk to me. My question is this: just because he makes lots of money, can he ask for custody of the baby. I know it sounds unlikely with him having a history of drug use, but he has already made me look like the bad one to his family. They will support him, i'm sure. I don't want to marry him and I haven't told him because I just want to have a healthy baby right now. I am sure when he sees I don't want to be with him he will seek revenge. My father is an abuse counselor and was helping him when he was in TX. He has called my father twice, admitting that he has relasped and wanted help, but haschanged his mind the very next day, and starts using again. All he does now is harrass me by breaking promises about bringing cash. Since he moved he has given me $150. The bills amount to $3000. Anyway, I guess I am asking is there a way I could get support without being involved with him. He is very sick and I am afraid to do this, but if I have to I must. Please help, if you can.
thinking about my future and would like some advice about my situation, please. I have a fiance of 4 months that uses crack/cocaine. I am 4 months pregnant. Before I got engaged to him he was in a treatment center and I was aware of that, but he told me it was for alcohol. Anyway, after he left TX to join me in Virginia to get married, we got an apartment. It was in my name because he has bad credit. When he showed signs of drug use, (not coming home until late at night, saying he was going to his AA meetings but not going, he took
$200 from our dresser one time, he would come home and get a little bit of cash and run back out, and he constantly denies the drug use) I asked him to leave. He is living with his sister, I believe, but who knows.
He became angry about this and has threatened me saying that he can take the baby because I can't afford good lawyers like he can. He is a dentist, and conceals this insanity all during the day. By night, he causes me mental and emotional stress. He has also left me with bills, which he could well cover in 1 week or 2, if he wanted to. They are an unpaid for engagement ring and a cell phone which both are in my name. I had to turn his cell phone off. He calls me each day to say he'll bring by the money and never show up. He has a pattern of this. I told him not to call me anymore and he said I would never get the $ he owes me if he can't talk to me. My question is this: just because he makes lots of money, can he ask for custody of the baby. I know it sounds unlikely with him having a history of drug use, but he has already made me look like the bad one to his family. They will support him, i'm sure. I don't want to marry him and I haven't told him because I just want to have a healthy baby right now. I am sure when he sees I don't want to be with him he will seek revenge. My father is an abuse counselor and was helping him when he was in TX. He has called my father twice, admitting that he has relasped and wanted help, but haschanged his mind the very next day, and starts using again. All he does now is harrass me by breaking promises about bringing cash. Since he moved he has given me $150. The bills amount to $3000. Anyway, I guess I am asking is there a way I could get support without being involved with him. He is very sick and I am afraid to do this, but if I have to I must. Please help, if you can.