So my take on this - at the uncontested hearing , the Commissioner will ask if we agree . ETC ETC , I simply say - No - And that I have an order to show cause pending still - This kinda of makes since that the courts then mandated appearances at the uncontested hearing .."Switching from Contested Divorce to Uncontested DivorceIn California, both contested divorce and uncontested divorce are common. A case becomes "contested" when you and your spouse disagree on one or more issues, such as property, finances or child custody. Your spouse will need to file a Response to your Petition stating what he or she disagrees on. From there, it's up to one of you to schedule a hearing or trial date so the judge can hear both sides and resolve the disagreement.
A case may start out or later become contested, but it can become uncontested if an agreement is found through mediation, negotiation, or another process. An uncontested divorce case can be handled without court hearings and by referencing this California Divorce Guide. If you have any court dates scheduled, you may be able to cancel those once the case becomes uncontested."
http://www.cadivorce.com/california-divorce-guide/planning-for-a-california-divorce/california-uncontested-divorce/
*NOTE:* I have no connection with the linked firm, just providing info for OP.
my only question I have left is there a form or a motion that should be filled at an Uncontested hearing before I appear ? I've looked at all the rules of the court and motions and can not find any ?
Thank you so so much for the input here ......