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Ljnsy

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What is the name of your state? New Hampshire

My last post: https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=310738

We went to a temporary hearing on the 3rd and the Judge ordered that my son be evaluated by a psychologist or psychiatrist. Which is fine, except for the fact that some of the points brought up on my ex’s side were completely false and my attorney did not contradict. Grrr!
While in court, my ex lied and said that I refused to take my son to the first Dr. because he was too far away. That was a blatant lie. I talked to that Dr. extensively on the phone and he told me that it was, in his opinion, a parenting issue. He also stated that he thought it would be a good idea for my ex and I to bring my son in together so that my son won’t think we are against each other. The same day I talked to my ex on the phone, asked him to make the appointment, he agreed to and I never heard another word about it.
While at a therapy session with my ex alone (different person, this was my ex’s personal psychologist), I asked why he didn’t make the appointment with that other Dr. He told me that that particular Dr. does not treat children and his psychologist concurred. ANOTHER lie!
I called Dr. #1 the beginning of this week and he most definitely DOES treat children. I made an appointment and am now awaiting my ex’s response through our attorneys since we are supposed to agree on the Dr.
Here is my vent:
A few months ago, my then 8 y.o. son informed me that while on visitation with daddy, they watched Saving Private Ryan. I was quite outraged about this and brought it up with my ex. He said that it was ok because it was the “TV version”. I told him that I didn’t care if it was the “Cartoon version” movies like that are not suitable for a child his age. I have since found out that the “TV version” is the EXACT version as played in the theatre.
Last weekend, my ex had my son for visitation. When I was putting my son to bed on Sunday night, he told me he was really scared. I asked him why and he said he wasn’t supposed to tell me. I told him that he can tell me anything he wants to tell me no matter what anyone else says. So he did! Saturday night, he watched the DVD “DOOM” with his father! If any of you have seen this movie you know how horrific it can be, especially for a child. I’m beside myself. I had to sleep in his room for 2 nights and now he still needs to sleep with the light on!
And he (EX) says our son is the one who needs psychiatric help???? Puleezzzze!

Any suggestions on how I can use this movie thing to my advantage regarding getting a Judge to order my EX to take parenting classes?What is the name of your state?
 


acmb05

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Ljnsy said:
What is the name of your state? New Hampshire

My last post: https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=310738

We went to a temporary hearing on the 3rd and the Judge ordered that my son be evaluated by a psychologist or psychiatrist. Which is fine, except for the fact that some of the points brought up on my ex_s side were completely false and my attorney did not contradict. Grrr!
While in court, my ex lied and said that I refused to take my son to the first Dr. because he was too far away. That was a blatant lie. I talked to that Dr. extensively on the phone and he told me that it was, in his opinion, a parenting issue. He also stated that he thought it would be a good idea for my ex and I to bring my son in together so that my son won_t think we are against each other. The same day I talked to my ex on the phone, asked him to make the appointment, he agreed to and I never heard another word about it.
While at a therapy session with my ex alone (different person, this was my ex_s personal psychologist), I asked why he didn_t make the appointment with that other Dr. He told me that that particular Dr. does not treat children and his psychologist concurred. ANOTHER lie!
I called Dr. #1 the beginning of this week and he most definitely DOES treat children. I made an appointment and am now awaiting my ex_s response through our attorneys since we are supposed to agree on the Dr.
Here is my vent:
A few months ago, my then 8 y.o. son informed me that while on visitation with daddy, they watched Saving Private Ryan. I was quite outraged about this and brought it up with my ex. He said that it was ok because it was the _TV version_. I told him that I didn_t care if it was the _Cartoon version_ movies like that are not suitable for a child his age. I have since found out that the _TV version_ is the EXACT version as played in the theatre.
Last weekend, my ex had my son for visitation. When I was putting my son to bed on Sunday night, he told me he was really scared. I asked him why and he said he wasn_t supposed to tell me. I told him that he can tell me anything he wants to tell me no matter what anyone else says. So he did! Saturday night, he watched the DVD _DOOM_ with his father! If any of you have seen this movie you know how horrific it can be, especially for a child. I_m beside myself. I had to sleep in his room for 2 nights and now he still needs to sleep with the light on!
And he (EX) says our son is the one who needs psychiatric help???? Puleezzzze!

Any suggestions on how I can use this movie thing to my advantage regarding getting a Judge to order my EX to take parenting classes?What is the name of your state?
I have a suggestion..... Stop trying to control everything your ex does with your child. It was a movie for heavens sake. My kids have watched that movie also and it is one of my 10 year olds favorites. I have never seen DOOM so I cant comment on that.

As far as the rest why did you not speak up in court and say something? This is assuming you have written documentation to back up every thing you said. I swear people hire a lawyer and then think they are just supposed to sit there like a puppy and not say anything. YOU should have said something to your lawyer immediately to contradict what your ex's lawyer was saying.
 

NotSoNew

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yeah i dont think arguing over movies is a good idea, it will make you seem very petty. you cant control what movies your ex lets him watch, and its really a parenting style difference.
 

Ljnsy

Member
acmb05 said:
I have a suggestion..... Stop trying to control everything your ex does with your child. It was a movie for heavens sake. My kids have watched that movie also and it is one of my 10 year olds favorites. I have never seen DOOM so I cant comment on that.

As far as the rest why did you not speak up in court and say something? This is assuming you have written documentation to back up every thing you said. I swear people hire a lawyer and then think they are just supposed to sit there like a puppy and not say anything. YOU should have said something to your lawyer immediately to contradict what your ex's lawyer was saying.
Who said that I try to control "everything" my ex does with my child? Movies such as that are inappropriate for children, Doom especially. I have not seen the movie myself but watched trailers and previews on line and also read about it. The theatre rating is R for strong violence/gore and language. The DVD rating is NR (Not-rated) AND UR (Un-rated) and has additional gore and violence that didn't make it past the MPAA's rating standards even for an R rating! This movie is extremely graphic with blood, guts, piles of intestines, you name it, it's in there. Also, there is extramely offinsive language, Including the "C" word. Tell me that if your child was allowed to watch a movie such as this and is so frightened that he can't get to sleep at night that you wouldn't have a problem with it.

As for documentation, YES I DO have it. I kept contradicting to my attorney but he said NOTHING.
 

Ljnsy

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FrustratedMommy said:
Sounds like you would both greatly benefit from the co parenting classes the state has.
MY house is not where my son "allegedly" acts up. My ex is the one who is claiming that he has difficulty with him. I do NOT have difficulty. The school does NOT have difficulty, and neither does anyone elso EXCEPT my ex and his GF.
 
The 2 of you obviously have issues with each other that prevent you from doing what is in the child's best interest.

Take the classes it wont hurt.
 

Ljnsy

Member
FrustratedMommy said:
The 2 of you obviously have issues with each other that prevent you from doing what is in the child's best interest.

Take the classes it wont hurt.
You're right. I'm sure it wouldn't hurt. Problem is, my ex is not "allowed" to be near me, speak to me (unless he HAS to) OR answer any of my emails...and my emails are always short and to the point. Mainly "Are you picking Zach up at school today?" I get NO answer. His gf controls him. Before she came into the picture we communicated and got along very well as far as our son was concerned.
 
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