My son and his wife divorced and have two children. As a result, each of them kept custody of one child. One child who is 10 lives in the state of WA and the other 15 lives in NY.
Court papers specifically stated every other year who does the traveling and also which holidays along with summer vacation. Summer vacation is one month at each others.
This past year, the 10 yr old was supposed to spend the holidays in NY. Apparently the parent decided to leave it up to the child to decide and prefaced it by saying that there were many gifts awaiting her at someone's home in VA. And of course, the child was eager to go there instead of spending time with the other parent.
Do you think the WA parent violated the order? If so, what should we do?
The 15 yr feels pressured by the WA parent. The WA parent had said something to the effect that the NY parent is trying to pay back for what she did during the holidays. She is very good at manipulating and drawing guilt. Why do divorced parents continue to 'use' their children, don't they know that the children are already mentally stressed by the divorce.
My question is: Could we force a 15 yr to go see the parent if he does not want to? He is a teenager, is he obligated? Or could the parent go back to court to have the visitations modified, making it just the summer vacation? What happens if the teen wants to work for the summer?
Court papers specifically stated every other year who does the traveling and also which holidays along with summer vacation. Summer vacation is one month at each others.
This past year, the 10 yr old was supposed to spend the holidays in NY. Apparently the parent decided to leave it up to the child to decide and prefaced it by saying that there were many gifts awaiting her at someone's home in VA. And of course, the child was eager to go there instead of spending time with the other parent.
Do you think the WA parent violated the order? If so, what should we do?
The 15 yr feels pressured by the WA parent. The WA parent had said something to the effect that the NY parent is trying to pay back for what she did during the holidays. She is very good at manipulating and drawing guilt. Why do divorced parents continue to 'use' their children, don't they know that the children are already mentally stressed by the divorce.
My question is: Could we force a 15 yr to go see the parent if he does not want to? He is a teenager, is he obligated? Or could the parent go back to court to have the visitations modified, making it just the summer vacation? What happens if the teen wants to work for the summer?