Violation of trust and impersonation

[blindsided2010]

Idaho

I have been told I can press charges for this, and would like to find out. The problem is in proving it. I've just learned my now ex had his girlfriend listen in to all the marriage counseling sessions and she is telling all sorts of lies about what I said within those sessions. Lies to my kids about things I said about them, slurs against my character, etc. Also, she is gossiping to and joking with people about things she claims I said during the sessions.

Furthermore, my phone was recently shut off. The company told me I called and ordered it disconnected - I provided the last 4 of my social security number to do so. Obviously, I did not order my phone off, and I have no enemies - other than the ex and the gf - as far as I know. The ex and I were married for nearly 30 years - he and I know each other's SSNs by heart. She has also, in the last year, pretended to be me with the IRS, Dept. of Education, and my Dr's office. My Dr.'s office almost dumped me as a patient due to her vulgarity over the phone - all whilst claiming to be me!

What options do I have? I have had no contact with my ex for a year - except for some e-mails regarding taxes, the last of which were from him to me during the same weekend the phone was ordered shut off. I did not seek alimony. I want nothing to do with either of them. I'm SICK of this, and want it to stop. Do I have a case?

 

[davew128]

Do you have PROOF?

 

[mistoffolees]

Idaho

I have been told I can press charges for this, and would like to find out. The problem is in proving it. I've just learned my now ex had his girlfriend listen in to all the marriage counseling sessions and she is telling all sorts of lies about what I said within those sessions. Lies to my kids about things I said about them, slurs against my character, etc. Also, she is gossiping to and joking with people about things she claims I said during the sessions.

Furthermore, my phone was recently shut off. The company told me I called and ordered it disconnected - I provided the last 4 of my social security number to do so. Obviously, I did not order my phone off, and I have no enemies - other than the ex and the gf - as far as I know. The ex and I were married for nearly 30 years - he and I know each other's SSNs by heart. She has also, in the last year, pretended to be me with the IRS, Dept. of Education, and my Dr's office. My Dr.'s office almost dumped me as a patient due to her vulgarity over the phone - all whilst claiming to be me!

What options do I have? I have had no contact with my ex for a year - except for some e-mails regarding taxes, the last of which were from him to me during the same weekend the phone was ordered shut off. I did not seek alimony. I want nothing to do with either of them. I'm SICK of this, and want it to stop. Do I have a case?

Not really.

Your strongest argument would be whoever cut off your phone service as that would constitute identity theft which is, I believe, a federal crime. The problem is that you don't have any way to prove it.

 

[Bali Hai]

Idaho

I have been told I can press charges for this, and would like to find out. The problem is in proving it. I've just learned my now ex had his girlfriend listen in to all the marriage counseling sessions and she is telling all sorts of lies about what I said within those sessions. Lies to my kids about things I said about them, slurs against my character, etc. Also, she is gossiping to and joking with people about things she claims I said during the sessions.

Furthermore, my phone was recently shut off. The company told me I called and ordered it disconnected - I provided the last 4 of my social security number to do so. Obviously, I did not order my phone off, and I have no enemies - other than the ex and the gf - as far as I know. The ex and I were married for nearly 30 years - he and I know each other's SSNs by heart. She has also, in the last year, pretended to be me with the IRS, Dept. of Education, and my Dr's office. My Dr.'s office almost dumped me as a patient due to her vulgarity over the phone - all whilst claiming to be me!

What options do I have? I have had no contact with my ex for a year - except for some e-mails regarding taxes, the last of which were from him to me during the same weekend the phone was ordered shut off. I did not seek alimony. I want nothing to do with either of them. I'm SICK of this, and want it to stop. Do I have a case?

As you know, you need proof to press any charges. Contact your Sheriff's Dept. and explain the situation to them.

A number of years ago, my daughter was stalked by an ex b/f. With a court order, the police can conduct an investigation i.e. wiretaps etc. for a reasonable length of time.

 

[mistoffolees]

As you know, you need proof to press any charges. Contact your Sheriff's Dept. and explain the situation to them.

A number of years ago, my daughter was stalked by an ex b/f. With a court order, the police can conduct an investigation i.e. wiretaps etc. for a reasonable length of time.

That begs the question, though. Is there enough evidence to get a court order? I just don't see it.

 

[Bali Hai]

That begs the question, though. Is there enough evidence to get a court order? I just don't see it.

Maybe, maybe not, OP will never know unless she tries. The effort here is to obtain evidence. Is there enough probable cause to do so? That's a decision for law enforcement and the court.