What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Maine
Ok I am the step-dad and I stay out of stuff the best I can but one of the two questions has to deal with me so going ask both for me and wife in one post.
Please note the child has ODD and ADHD.
Both me and wife went though a training course setup by CPS(was told as a step-parent that CPS expects me to know what to do and to do it if needed) to learn how they expect parents to deal with special needs kids. This includes if needed how to restrain the child if he starts to hit himself or others. Father went though a parenting course though another program he was going though at the time(though don't know if one approved by CPS for special needs kids)
In the court order wife is CP with solo custody. Order stats that there are no set visitaition times just to be worked out between her and her ex.
Wife and ex can setup a visite for a drop off time and pick up time(overnigth or just for a few hours), but as soon as the child starts to have any type of issues the ex is calling and demanding that the child is pickup asap.
He as stated that he dosn't want to deal with the child when he has a fit or such. In fact the child spent last nigth at dads and was not to be picked up till noon est, and at 7am was getting a call saying that the child was acting up and hitting dad and to come get him NOW. After getting child in car ex leaned in to car and told both me and ex that if child stays like this he is not alowed over to dad's house.
1st is there anything wife can do to deal with this throught the courts? Do not think having set times will work cause ex will just keep doing the same thing.
2nd. The father has made it clear that he dosen't want wife or me to hold the child if he starts to hit himself or us. But CPS has stated that they expect wife or me to. Can the father stop us form doing what CPS has told us they want to do?
Ok I am the step-dad and I stay out of stuff the best I can but one of the two questions has to deal with me so going ask both for me and wife in one post.
Please note the child has ODD and ADHD.
Both me and wife went though a training course setup by CPS(was told as a step-parent that CPS expects me to know what to do and to do it if needed) to learn how they expect parents to deal with special needs kids. This includes if needed how to restrain the child if he starts to hit himself or others. Father went though a parenting course though another program he was going though at the time(though don't know if one approved by CPS for special needs kids)
In the court order wife is CP with solo custody. Order stats that there are no set visitaition times just to be worked out between her and her ex.
Wife and ex can setup a visite for a drop off time and pick up time(overnigth or just for a few hours), but as soon as the child starts to have any type of issues the ex is calling and demanding that the child is pickup asap.
He as stated that he dosn't want to deal with the child when he has a fit or such. In fact the child spent last nigth at dads and was not to be picked up till noon est, and at 7am was getting a call saying that the child was acting up and hitting dad and to come get him NOW. After getting child in car ex leaned in to car and told both me and ex that if child stays like this he is not alowed over to dad's house.
1st is there anything wife can do to deal with this throught the courts? Do not think having set times will work cause ex will just keep doing the same thing.
2nd. The father has made it clear that he dosen't want wife or me to hold the child if he starts to hit himself or us. But CPS has stated that they expect wife or me to. Can the father stop us form doing what CPS has told us they want to do?
