WA: Divorce/Custody

[LdiJ]

I tend to agree, but there is always a SMALL chance if he continues to fight (money and time are going to be factors). If dad steps in though, it will be over.

Here is the thing though. It can't be handled as part of his divorce case. It would have to be a separate proceeding. Mom will be able to freely keep him away from the child (and will if he files for visitation) and third party cases take quite a bit of time. Its probable that the child won't even remember him by the time it gets in front of a judge for a final decision.

I realize that he is attached to the child, and I am sure that the child is attached to him. However, there is very little likelihood that a 3 year old will remember him for very long.

He would be far better served to make nice with mom, and then maybe she would be willing to allow some contact between he and the child. However, it might be too late for that, since he probably already has mom's back up by asking her to give him some custody.

 

[milspecgirl]

as much as i hate it for the child, it may be best for him to start distancing himself now. Mom may allow some contact in the beginning, but I would say when she finds someone else, it will be over and the child will be older and more likely to get hurt. At least at this point, the child will likely forget soon

 

[Makinitmine]

yeah there's no real chance of me being nice with her mom. The divorce is something I filed for because she cheated on me and got pregnant.....I said I'd give her a second chance and she got one session of counseling. Then this morning I find out that two nights ago she had told me she was going to her friend kayla's house, and it turns out she ended up going to this other guy's house ( a guy I thought was a good christian guy who went to our church and also was real cool to me when she cheated on me with one of her exs) and yet again repeated her actions (not getting pregnant though)

And unfortunately I don't have the money or resources available for a long lasting thing that will cost lots of money as I am 21 and am going to school and what not

 

[LdiJ]

yeah there's no real chance of me being nice with her mom. The divorce is something I filed for because she cheated on me and got pregnant.....I said I'd give her a second chance and she got one session of counseling. Then this morning I find out that two nights ago she had told me she was going to her friend kayla's house, and it turns out she ended up going to this other guy's house ( a guy I thought was a good christian guy who went to our church and also was real cool to me when she cheated on me with one of her exs) and yet again repeated her actions (not getting pregnant though)

And unfortunately I don't have the money or resources available for a long lasting thing that will cost lots of money as I am 21 and am going to school and what not

Then you need to accept the fact that you won't continue to be part of your stepdaughter's life.

Also, if your wife is pregnant, you won't be able to get divorced until after the baby is born and you prove, via DNA testing, that you are not the father.