Want to move out of Connecticut

[rpowers2380]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?Connecticuxxxt
I have a one year old daughter and I would like to move from Connecticut to Rhode Island. My daughter's father and I have never been married, and he does not pay child support due to the fact that he is disabled. I do collect from his social security disablity benefits, which is barely enough to do anything. I wanted to look into jobs in Rhode Island because I have been unemployed in Connecticut for almost four months and having no luck. I was wondering how I can go about moving out of state? Her father is the type of person who wants to my life miserable because his life is miserable. Is there a way to do this without going to court? Can I just tell him we're moving and leave? I am trying to avoid costly lawyers because neither one of us can afford them.
Can anyone offer me advice? I would appreciate it greatly. Some other info about the case...we have joint custody. Her primary residence is with me. I get to make the day to day decisions and have final decision make authority.

 

[stealth2]

If he objects to the move, you'll have to prove to a court that it would be in the child's best interests.

 

[haiku]

Rhode Island? Hot bed of New England career opportunity?

LOLOLOLOLOLOL

honey I think I know where you are in Ct. if RI is close by and I got 3 words....

Mohegan Sun Foxwoods

you will have a good job tomorrow......

and NE Ct-HIGHLY affordable rent........

 

[rpowers2380]

Rhode Island? Hot bed of New England career opportunity?

LOLOLOLOLOLOL

honey I think I know where you are in Ct. if RI is close by and I got 3 words....

Mohegan Sun Foxwoods

you will have a good job tomorrow......

and NE Ct-HIGHLY affordable rent........

I am about an hour or so from the casino. And they don't pay very well, I have already looked into that. Plus, I can't work nights. I need a day time job. The rent in CT is HORRIBLE. Everything is very expensive. I found some places in RI that are much cheaper. Do you have any other suggestions of places to find jobs in CT. I just want to provide for my daughter...that is what it amounts to!

 

[haiku]

Ummm, I know MANY people who when downsized, ended up making a career out of the casino, the pay and the benies especially at the Sun, are hard to beat anywhere else.

the rents in NE CT, run, about 600 a month utilities included for a 2 bedroom, 495 without can be had but its a bit more work to find......

try all the distribution centers? Factory work ain't glamourous, but it pays the bills and gives you benies......

And don't forget with a little commute you got Massachusetts....

 

[rpowers2380]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?Connecticuxxxt
I have a one year old daughter and I would like to move from Connecticut to Rhode Island. My daughter's father and I have never been married, and he does not pay child support due to the fact that he is disabled. I do collect from his social security disablity benefits, which is barely enough to do anything. I wanted to look into jobs in Rhode Island because I have been unemployed in Connecticut for almost four months and having no luck. I was wondering how I can go about moving out of state? Her father is the type of person who wants to my life miserable because his life is miserable. Is there a way to do this without going to court? Can I just tell him we're moving and leave? I am trying to avoid costly lawyers because neither one of us can afford them.
Can anyone offer me advice? I would appreciate it greatly. Some other info about the case...we have joint custody. Her primary residence is with me. I get to make the day to day decisions and have final decision make authority.

I do not want to stay in Connecticut. I feel that Rhode Island would be a better placement, and would offer us a better life

 

[stealth2]

I do not want to stay in Connecticut. I feel that Rhode Island would be a better placement, and would offer us a better life

Okay. How? You're going to have to convince a judge.

 

[haiku]

I am still lost on RI being the land of oppurtunity but, heres the deal...

YOU are allowed to go anywhere you like, but the child is bound by court order to remain in the state of Ct.

I take it your ex has been informed by you of your intentions, and he is not wanting you to go, right?

If he were willing to see you go, it would be a simple matter of going to court and reworking the visitation schedule to accomodate the new distance, especially if it is considerably more than what it is now. this can be done without lawyers, and for minimal fees.

If he is not willing to let you go. You will be better off with a lawyer, because you will have to mediate with your ex, and prove to the court that your moving would be of great benefit to the child. (the greatest benefit being-unimpeded contact with BOTH parents-moving a child away from a parent kinda makes that difficult)

What sort of spectacular job offers and places to live are there in RI? ALL of these things can be found in Ct. So you are going to have a tough time there.

granted New England is small, the distance you are wanting to make "could" be short, but you need to be willing to offer lots more visitation time, to make up for the distance and offer to do most of the transporting.

To be allowed to move without even any prospects of a job or home, you may have an uphill battle. I have no crystal ball so your first step is trying to work it out with your ex, so you can modify visitation with a minimum of fuss.

 

[rpowers2380]

I am still lost on RI being the land of oppurtunity but, heres the deal...

YOU are allowed to go anywhere you like, but the child is bound by court order to remain in the state of Ct.

I take it your ex has been informed by you of your intentions, and he is not wanting you to go, right?

If he were willing to see you go, it would be a simple matter of going to court and reworking the visitation schedule to accomodate the new distance, especially if it is considerably more than what it is now. this can be done without lawyers, and for minimal fees.

If he is not willing to let you go. You will be better off with a lawyer, because you will have to mediate with your ex, and prove to the court that your moving would be of great benefit to the child. (the greatest benefit being-unimpeded contact with BOTH parents-moving a child away from a parent kinda makes that difficult)

What sort of spectacular job offers and places to live are there in RI? ALL of these things can be found in Ct. So you are going to have a tough time there.

granted New England is small, the distance you are wanting to make "could" be short, but you need to be willing to offer lots more visitation time, to make up for the distance and offer to do most of the transporting.

To be allowed to move without even any prospects of a job or home, you may have an uphill battle. I have no crystal ball so your first step is trying to work it out with your ex, so you can modify visitation with a minimum of fuss.

Thank you. I have a job offer in providence. I cannot offer him any more visitation then he already has. He sees her two times during the week and every other weekend. From what I can see, that is enough and there is no reason for any more than that. Especially because he is not helping me support her whatsoever. The 100 I get from the government is nothing. I do all the driving as it is. I have a friend that lives out there and needs a roommate. She said I could live with her. So there is my plan for the housing and the job. More than what I can say that I have in CT. BTW are you from CT or RI? One more question for you....so if I moved to lets say the CT/RI border, but stayed in CT he couldn't do anything, right? Or am I wrong on that? Because I could always move to Mystic, where my other friend owns a house. Just didn't know if that would be a battle also?

 

[rpowers2380]

Okay. How? You're going to have to convince a judge.

I have a job offer there, which is a lot more than I have here in CT. Also, I am living w/my parents currently which is causing a lot of issues with who her mother is. Which when she gets older could cause an issue. With the job offer that I have I would be able to afford to live on my own and out of my parents house. I would be able to provide for her. Her father doesn't give me any money for support. I get 100 a month which doesn't even cover child care. So I would tell them that I need to go where the money is. And I have been looking for four months and have gotten no where here in CT. Would I have to go to court to move to say...groton or mystic? It is still in Ct, just not were I live currently?

 

[LdiJ]

Ok....this is going to sound a bit "off the wall"...but I spent some time looking at maps and honestly....is this really an issue legally? If she can maintain the same visitation whether she lives in CT or RI is a judge REALLY going to have a problem with this? I am not sure that a judge would.

To the original poster: Instead of telling us that you want to move from CT to RI, how about telling us how far away (in miles) you actually want to go?

 

[mamasmiles]

Ok....this is going to sound a bit "off the wall"...but I spent some time looking at maps and honestly....is this really an issue legally? If she can maintain the same visitation whether she lives in CT or RI is a judge REALLY going to have a problem with this? I am not sure that a judge would.

To the original poster: Instead of telling us that you want to move from CT to RI, how about telling us how far away (in miles) you actually want to go?

I am the original poster, but under a new name because the log on kept telling me I had an error or whatever. Working on fixing it. But it is about a 90 mile difference. The visitation schedule can stay the same, except maybe alter a little differently because it is about an hour plus some driving distance she wouldn't be home until like 8:30 or 9 on the week days. So maybe cut it down for one day during the week and offer one extra day on his off weekends. Do you really think a judge wouldn't have a problem with this? I appreciate your help, and can't wait to hear what you have to say!

 

[rpowers2380]

I am the original poster, but under a new name because the log on kept telling me I had an error or whatever. Working on fixing it. But it is about a 90 mile difference. The visitation schedule can stay the same, except maybe alter a little differently because it is about an hour plus some driving distance she wouldn't be home until like 8:30 or 9 on the week days. So maybe cut it down for one day during the week and offer one extra day on his off weekends. Do you really think a judge wouldn't have a problem with this? I appreciate your help, and can't wait to hear what you have to say!

Ok, my name was fixed! So I won't be using the other one now.

 

[haiku]

well RI is small, but CT is not as small, and depending on where she lives it "could" be an issue, as you still have to have permission from the court to move out of state, if the other parent objects, as small or not the state still holds its jurisdiction over the child.

As a former resident of Ct, who had to wage a small battle for permission to move to ma. when the ex objected, (also right "over the border") I did get my wish, but not with out a few appearances at mediation, and a little giving in on my part. Same with my husband and his ex over another New England state. I know sometimes things are not as easy as it seems.

to the OP, in-state move would be easier, you will not need the courts permission, but may still require some adjustment to visitation. It all depends on where you are currently located.

 

[rpowers2380]

well RI is small, but CT is not as small, and depending on where she lives it "could" be an issue, as you still have to have permission from the court to move out of state, if the other parent objects, as small or not the state still holds its jurisdiction over the child.

As a former resident of Ct, who had to wage a small battle for permission to move to ma. when the ex objected, (also right "over the border") I did get my wish, but not with out a few appearances at mediation, and a little giving in on my part. Same with my husband and his ex over another New England state. I know sometimes things are not as easy as it seems.

to the OP, in-state move would be easier, you will not need the courts permission, but may still require some adjustment to visitation. It all depends on where you are currently located.

thanks for your help! At least you know the area, and know what it takes to leave the state because you have been through it! Did ur ex give in, or did the judge approve of it? At least it will give me an idea, that is if you don't mind me asking!