Want whats best for my daughter

[rezap]

My daughters dad just up and left two years ago in October, I would have never know about it untill his mom spilled the beans. Anyhow he hardly calls her and when he does he makes all these broken promises and then doesn't call for another two or so months, and he pays child support every once in a while. I am married and my husband provides everything for her and she calls him dad, I just really want to get her bio-dads rights taken because it is a very unhealthy relationship for my daughter and I don't know what to do anymore.

 

[Just Blue]

My daughters dad just up and left two years ago in October, I would have never know about it untill his mom spilled the beans. Anyhow he hardly calls her and when he does he makes all these broken promises and then doesn't call for another two or so months, and he pays child support every once in a while. I am married and my husband provides everything for her and she calls him dad, I just really want to get her bio-dads rights taken because it is a very unhealthy relationship for my daughter and I don't know what to do anymore.

Could you please post you legal question?

 

[Zigner]

US Law Only!

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

My daughters dad just up and left two years ago in October, I would have never know about it untill his mom spilled the beans. Anyhow he hardly calls her and when he does he makes all these broken promises and then doesn't call for another two or so months, and he pays child support every once in a while. I am married and my husband provides everything for her and she calls him dad, I just really want to get her bio-dads rights taken because it is a very unhealthy relationship for my daughter and I don't know what to do anymore.

Is the child support court ordered? Has he legally been found to be the father?

 

[rezap]

Yes there is a child support order in place as well as visitation but only in our state, and yes he is the father. And I guess my legal question would be how do I get his rights taken since he is not doing his part as a father.

 

[Ohiogal]

Yes there is a child support order in place as well as visitation but only in our state, and yes he is the father. And I guess my legal question would be how do I get his rights taken since he is not doing his part as a father.

WHAT STATE? Has he paid child support? Has he visited? What contact has he had?

 

[Zephyr]

Would dad be WILLING to agree to your daughter being adopted by stepdad?

 

[rezap]

We live in Texas but he moved out of state, he hasn't seen her in two years, he might call every couple of months but it's always I'm going to come see you real soon and then he doesn't, and I have gotten just a few child support checks in the past three or four years. And my husband really wants to adopt her, if her bio-dad would be willing to do that I have no idea. Her bio-dad also changed his last name so now our daughter doesn't have either of our last names and I want to change that too!!! I just have no idea about how to do any of it!!!!!!

 

[Ohiogal]

We live in Texas but he moved out of state, he hasn't seen her in two years, he might call every couple of months but it's always I'm going to come see you real soon and then he doesn't, and I have gotten just a few child support checks in the past three or four years. And my husband really wants to adopt her, if her bio-dad would be willing to do that I have no idea. Her bio-dad also changed his last name so now our daughter doesn't have either of our last names and I want to change that too!!! I just have no idea about how to do any of it!!!!!!

The word is NOT bio-dad but DAD. when were the child support checks? When were the calls?

You need an attorney quite frankly.

 

[rezap]

If he acted like a DAD then I would call him a DAD but he doesn't so I'm not gonna call him dad. Am I suppossed to call my biological father my dad because he paid child support on me my whole life but I have never once met him?? A man that plays with his child takes care of is child and wants to be there for his child is a DAD and nothing less.

He has not called her for over two months and I got a small check in the mail this week. I also think that I need an attorney, I just wanted some advice on my situation.

 

[Ohiogal]

If he acted like a DAD then I would call him a DAD but he doesn't so I'm not gonna call him dad. Am I suppossed to call my biological father my dad because he paid child support on me my whole life but I have never once met him?? A man that plays with his child takes care of is child and wants to be there for his child is a DAD and nothing less.

He has not called her for over two months and I got a small check in the mail this week. I also think that I need an attorney, I just wanted some advice on my situation.

He became dad when you allowed him to implant his sperm into your vagina and you kept the pregnancy that resulted and it became a child. If you didn't want him to be dad then you should have aborted. Plain and simple. Oh and quite frankly you are responsible for FACILITATING the relationship. How often have you had dear darling child CALL daddy? How often have you suggested visits. Daddy sent a check this week. He has not abandoned the child. WITHOUT his approval adoption will not happen.

 

[rezap]

Just because a man can make a child doesn't give him the right to be called a DAD if he is not doing his part to be a dad. I'm not a woman who is so willing to throw a life away so carelessly. I did my part and made sure she saw her BIO-DAD up untill he UP AND LEFT. I don't hate him I have no reason to but I'm not going to subject my child to his jacked up head games because he has found a spare minute to call and tell her something he knows is false. If you think you are goning to change my mind about anything you are wrong my child lives a happy healthy life with me and my husband who is her DAD.

You still have not given any legal advice just your PERSONAL opinion about what I should call my childs biological father, and thats what he is.

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

Just because a man can make a child doesn't give him the right to be called a DAD if he is not doing his part to be a dad. I'm not a woman who is so willing to throw a life away so carelessly. I did my part and made sure she saw her BIO-DAD up untill he UP AND LEFT. I don't hate him I have no reason to but I'm not going to subject my child to his jacked up head games because he has found a spare minute to call and tell her something he knows is false. If you think you are goning to change my mind about anything you are wrong my child lives a happy healthy life with me and my husband who is her DAD.

You still have not given any legal advice just your PERSONAL opinion about what I should call my childs biological father, and thats what he is.

Actually you did get legal advice

He has not abandoned the child. WITHOUT his approval adoption will not happen.

That is legal advice. More importantly its correct legal advice. You just didnt like that the legal advice was not what you wanted to hear.

 

[Ohiogal]

Just because a man can make a child doesn't give him the right to be called a DAD if he is not doing his part to be a dad. I'm not a woman who is so willing to throw a life away so carelessly. I did my part and made sure she saw her BIO-DAD up untill he UP AND LEFT. I don't hate him I have no reason to but I'm not going to subject my child to his jacked up head games because he has found a spare minute to call and tell her something he knows is false. If you think you are goning to change my mind about anything you are wrong my child lives a happy healthy life with me and my husband who is her DAD.

You still have not given any legal advice just your PERSONAL opinion about what I should call my childs biological father, and thats what he is.

Re-read and comprehend what I wrote. Oh and I will add this -- if he wants visitation HE WILL GET IT. Your husband by the way is NOT dad. He is nothing more than your current screw buddy.

 

[AngelaAZ]

Just because a man can make a child doesn't give him the right to be called a DAD if he is not doing his part to be a dad. I'm not a woman who is so willing to throw a life away so carelessly. I did my part and made sure she saw her BIO-DAD up untill he UP AND LEFT. I don't hate him I have no reason to but I'm not going to subject my child to his jacked up head games because he has found a spare minute to call and tell her something he knows is false. If you think you are goning to change my mind about anything you are wrong my child lives a happy healthy life with me and my husband who is her DAD.

You still have not given any legal advice just your PERSONAL opinion about what I should call my childs biological father, and thats what he is.

Legally he is her dad. He pays child support. He's on her birth certificate. In the eyes of the law that is her Dad. That's not an opinion, that is a fact. And that is an attorney you are speaking to who was giving you legal advice.