Quite frankly you are withholding the child. You need to go back to court and properly serve dad. You also need to make sure that DAD was served notice BY YOU of your address when you moved. You may also have issues because dad can make a case for parental alienation. If dad wins based on alienation YOU can lose custody. if dad proves you are HIDING the child, he can force you to have supervised visitation and have custody changed.
Oh and your post about everything in Indiana -- don't post as if you know because if you did, you wouldn't have made the idiotic mistakes you stated you made. You also state in your first post that you never missed a court hearing. Yet within a few sentences you state you didn't show up for that hearing in which dad was given visitation. Your lies and inaccuracies will NOT help you. You need an attorney.
Yes, I am moving this weekend. I do not want to give him my new address because he has made several threats via MySpace. I have an an appt. with an attorney Wed. and need to see about filing a protective order until this is resolved.
I didn't know anything about law 1.5 years ago when I made my idiot mistakes. Since contact with the father about a week ago, I have read volumes of information concerning Indiana law. I admit I don't know a lot, but I have at least tried to educate myself on the matter.
That line about not missing a court date should have read "I HAD not missed a court date [previous to the missed one].
I agree I need legal representation, because I am not always clear about what is going on. I am not, however, a liar.
I could not serve notice to dad when I moved because he was in hiding. NO ONE knew where he was. He was supposed to be in jail. He has ran from the law concerning this case and those of his seven other children by five different mothers he does not provide for or see. (My son was his first child).
There are no grounds for parental alienation. I denied ONE visit. The ONLY visit he had ever asked for. I do not speak badly about him to my son. I don't want to emotionally damage my son.
I have NEVER hidden my son until now. In fact I used to BEG the father to spend time with the child. After the passage of several years we just got used to him not trying. I have always provided my address. He has always known where I lived. I DO NOT think anyone in their right mind would produce their child to someone who is threatening him in any way.
So maybe that's against the law, but I'm a mom. I love my kids and will protect them until the courts can decide what is in his best interest.
One great thing about your post is that it shows me how things can be taken when I am not clear. I need to take that into heavy consideration. However, I don;t know how helpful you were by implying I'm an idiot or calling me a liar. I am neither.
