what are my responsibilities?

[Lovingmom1]

Yep.

My wife has been assaulted in an elementary school classroom and there was nothing the school could do because his outbursts were covered in an IEP!!! But, the po-po and the courts could give a darn about his IEP so we hooked the kid up after the 2nd assault and returned him to mom and dad. At that point, the school had to take some measures to address safety in the classroom. (Yeah, I took exception to her being hit by a chair ...)

This is the root of my problem. I believe that is the direction we are headed...to creating an IEP to excuse certain behaviors that may be considered inappropriate to some. The parents are making excuses, blaming, accusing and creating dramatic situations. I want to make sure that I am covered by not seeming to "exclude" any of the parents.

The major difficulty is that the CP is on campus daily. It's so much easier to say, "Hey, so and so did XYZ today." as we pass in the hallway and then forget it rather than email both of them both (as not to exclude the NCP) that it could appear as if I'm playing favorites. I want to avoid that AT ALL costs!

Either way, I think you have all answered my questions..thank you!

 

[csi7]

I have one additional suggestion as a parent of a child who was falsely accused by a parent/teacher of other child in school situation.
The situation escalated really fast when the teacher posted a complaint on the staff bulletin board for additional information.
Just because parent is also a teacher at same school and you are in vicinity on a daily basis does NOT give this parent more rights than any other parent in similar situation.
When the dust finally settled, the kids were friends again, and remain friends to this day. The parents, administration, and other involved individuals worked together to find a common sense solution to prevent this type of situation happening again.
Best wishes!

 

[Lovingmom1]

I have one additional suggestion as a parent of a child who was falsely accused by a parent/teacher of other child in school situation.
The situation escalated really fast when the teacher posted a complaint on the staff bulletin board for additional information.
Just because parent is also a teacher at same school and you are in vicinity on a daily basis does NOT give this parent more rights than any other parent in similar situation.When the dust finally settled, the kids were friends again, and remain friends to this day. The parents, administration, and other involved individuals worked together to find a common sense solution to prevent this type of situation happening again.
Best wishes!

This was my exact point!! I don't WANT anyone to feel left out. I was acknowledging that it is easier to speak with a parent who is close in proximity, and was asking for suggestions as to a "fair and legal" way of communicating with both so that it isn't one sided. My administration has been unable (or unwilling) to help, so I searched Ed code, district policy and lastly came here. My next step is to speak with union representation.

By the way, any teacher who speaks of a student is violating confidentiality laws. While I can't quote them at present, it is a BIG deal, and the teacher you speak of could be in big trouble for airing student issues on any kind of bulletin board. We aren't even allowed to "vent" in the teachers lounge because of this.