The judge warned him sharply at one point that if he swore at her one more time he'd be fined and possibly spend some time in jail. He stopped with the profanity after that, but didn't apologize and he chuckled under his breath a few things the judge didn't hear. Apparently in his mind he was the only sane person in that room.
After his initial outburst with bad language, it was all just arrogant rudeness from there, but he kept it clean. The judge recommended the state find him in contempt of the cs order and wished him luck at our next hearing, with a thick layer of sarcasm. The look on the woman who sat there typing next to the judge quietly the whole time (sorry, I don't know her positions title) was priceless as we left though...she just had this sincere look of "I am so sorry" and shock on her face. I know they deal with freakshow parents everyday there, I guess we got to fill that spot for the day.
The attorney that "didn't represent either of us", or at least wasn't supposed to, peed me off though. He told the father at one point perhaps I'd waive the interest built up if he paid off his arrears within the next month. He owes $5.5K in arrears and has built up almost $800 in interest. The father is infuriated that the state charges interest, saying that they treat cs like a business. Well, the way I see it for every month he doesn't pay, his share of cs comes out of my family's pocket, and therefore his arrears are like a loan from my family. I think the interest makes sense, and have no plans on waiving it, he's been so unappreciative over the years, as I always just told him to pay what he can a month and we'll be cool. I always said I didn't care if it was the entire $250...I actually thought he was working less than I found out he was, so I felt a bit sympathetic. But as the months rolled by with no support at all the sympathy faded. And I found out the Asshat (such a good word) has been working almost full time for a while now and has made more this year than I did when it was just me supporting our daughter on a waitress salary paying for a two bedroom apartment with no help from his jobless butt at the time. He also had the nerve to say he should get it in writing that the arrears he pays off go into an IRA account for our daughter. My SO and I do put some money away for her, but like we have much to save, we're a family of four living paycheck to paycheck ourselves. And that's like borrowing money from someone and then saying "I'll pay you back but you can only spend it on ____." He compares our daughter to raising a pet and has no true understanding of the costs of raising a child.
Anyway, that jerk attorney should have kept the "waiving of interest" comment out. He sounded like he was representing him, and now Dad is just going to be extra mad at me when he finds out I have no plans of waiving the interest. That attorney was also an Asshat.
After his initial outburst with bad language, it was all just arrogant rudeness from there, but he kept it clean. The judge recommended the state find him in contempt of the cs order and wished him luck at our next hearing, with a thick layer of sarcasm. The look on the woman who sat there typing next to the judge quietly the whole time (sorry, I don't know her positions title) was priceless as we left though...she just had this sincere look of "I am so sorry" and shock on her face. I know they deal with freakshow parents everyday there, I guess we got to fill that spot for the day.
The attorney that "didn't represent either of us", or at least wasn't supposed to, peed me off though. He told the father at one point perhaps I'd waive the interest built up if he paid off his arrears within the next month. He owes $5.5K in arrears and has built up almost $800 in interest. The father is infuriated that the state charges interest, saying that they treat cs like a business. Well, the way I see it for every month he doesn't pay, his share of cs comes out of my family's pocket, and therefore his arrears are like a loan from my family. I think the interest makes sense, and have no plans on waiving it, he's been so unappreciative over the years, as I always just told him to pay what he can a month and we'll be cool. I always said I didn't care if it was the entire $250...I actually thought he was working less than I found out he was, so I felt a bit sympathetic. But as the months rolled by with no support at all the sympathy faded. And I found out the Asshat (such a good word) has been working almost full time for a while now and has made more this year than I did when it was just me supporting our daughter on a waitress salary paying for a two bedroom apartment with no help from his jobless butt at the time. He also had the nerve to say he should get it in writing that the arrears he pays off go into an IRA account for our daughter. My SO and I do put some money away for her, but like we have much to save, we're a family of four living paycheck to paycheck ourselves. And that's like borrowing money from someone and then saying "I'll pay you back but you can only spend it on ____." He compares our daughter to raising a pet and has no true understanding of the costs of raising a child.
Anyway, that jerk attorney should have kept the "waiving of interest" comment out. He sounded like he was representing him, and now Dad is just going to be extra mad at me when he finds out I have no plans of waiving the interest. That attorney was also an Asshat.
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