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What can I do? Scared of father.

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ninalee

Member
The judge warned him sharply at one point that if he swore at her one more time he'd be fined and possibly spend some time in jail. He stopped with the profanity after that, but didn't apologize and he chuckled under his breath a few things the judge didn't hear. Apparently in his mind he was the only sane person in that room.

After his initial outburst with bad language, it was all just arrogant rudeness from there, but he kept it clean. The judge recommended the state find him in contempt of the cs order and wished him luck at our next hearing, with a thick layer of sarcasm. The look on the woman who sat there typing next to the judge quietly the whole time (sorry, I don't know her positions title) was priceless as we left though...she just had this sincere look of "I am so sorry" and shock on her face. I know they deal with freakshow parents everyday there, I guess we got to fill that spot for the day.

The attorney that "didn't represent either of us", or at least wasn't supposed to, peed me off though. He told the father at one point perhaps I'd waive the interest built up if he paid off his arrears within the next month. He owes $5.5K in arrears and has built up almost $800 in interest. The father is infuriated that the state charges interest, saying that they treat cs like a business. Well, the way I see it for every month he doesn't pay, his share of cs comes out of my family's pocket, and therefore his arrears are like a loan from my family. I think the interest makes sense, and have no plans on waiving it, he's been so unappreciative over the years, as I always just told him to pay what he can a month and we'll be cool. I always said I didn't care if it was the entire $250...I actually thought he was working less than I found out he was, so I felt a bit sympathetic. But as the months rolled by with no support at all the sympathy faded. And I found out the Asshat (such a good word) has been working almost full time for a while now and has made more this year than I did when it was just me supporting our daughter on a waitress salary paying for a two bedroom apartment with no help from his jobless butt at the time. He also had the nerve to say he should get it in writing that the arrears he pays off go into an IRA account for our daughter. My SO and I do put some money away for her, but like we have much to save, we're a family of four living paycheck to paycheck ourselves. And that's like borrowing money from someone and then saying "I'll pay you back but you can only spend it on ____." He compares our daughter to raising a pet and has no true understanding of the costs of raising a child.

Anyway, that jerk attorney should have kept the "waiving of interest" comment out. He sounded like he was representing him, and now Dad is just going to be extra mad at me when he finds out I have no plans of waiving the interest. That attorney was also an Asshat.
 
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ninalee

Member
Anyway...I do appreciate all of your advice and I appreciate this website, free advice has helped save me from making bad decisions before and I am grateful for that. I will just try to evade him for now with excuses without actually denying him visits...lest he should decide to be demanding, in which case I will likely risk contempt until he cools down. Decision made.

I'll try to keep it strictly to the question at hand here if I ever have q's in the future, as now I know straying from it leads to getting bitten by the hands that feed... reeeow OG! (and yes, I feel he was indeed an asshat, so neener neener neener...you chill!:p)

I received the advice I need and will refrain from adding pointless banter you likely don't want to hear anyway from here on, okay? Really, my bad. I guess that entire last post I went on a bit of a tangent. Thanks again for the advice, you all provide a generous service here.

Peace out yo.
 

fairisfair

Senior Member
Smokes! :D What up? Bad day? Moody? LOL! I think this is the 1st time that I've "seen" someone hit a nerve w/you!! Deep breaths, CrtClk! BTW - my favorite response to whatever is "FINE" ;)

Have a happy w/e!:)
Court Clerk was spot on in her observations. Does that take a bad day or a bad mood?:rolleyes:
 

onebreath

Member
The only way you can be held in contempt is if you do not follow your court order. If you don't want to follow it, file papers today, and bring up all the issues you have that you are afraid of his threats. Even if the court doesn't listen to you, it will be on record, and you will have done something proactive. Perhaps it will also be a warning to the dad you are taking his words seriously. At the very least, I would hope the court would order him to take anger management classes (request that).
 

CourtClerk

Senior Member
Court Clerk was spot on in her observations. Does that take a bad day or a bad mood?:rolleyes:
To be observant or to finally call someone on it??? LOL

I'm glad it's not just me that sees it (although in a PM my original statement was confirmed by even someone else). Thanks Fair.
 

CourtClerk

Senior Member
I think regardless of what anybody asks, our advice should always be "God, STD, and intoxication don't mix."
I promise you my soda went straight through my nose when MoB said that... she definately gets the award for post of the year. That.... was the funniest thing I've read in a long time.
 

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