What can I do?

[liss870]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
So I live in Arkansas now and My 4 year old sons father still lives in California, I have custody he gets to see him in the summers and occasional holidays. In our court orders it says he is allowed to call 1 time per day for 10 mins. My problem is My son goes to school from 8 until 2pm. And I work from 3 to 11pm. He goes to a daycare facility immediatley after school. His father is having a fit because he cant talk to him during the week. I have explained to him our schedules and that he can call on the weekends but he is still calling and harrassing me everyday. I also have a restraining order against him that is supposed to prevent him from calling repeatedly but everytime I call the police they basically just call him and tell him not to call anymore and nothing happens. What can I do about this? He expects us to not have a life like him and just sit by the phone everyday and wait for him to call.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

 

[Isis1]

where is the child while you are at work?

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

He goes to a daycare facility immediatley after school.

So, the child is either at school or with a babysitter?

 

[liss870]

Yes he is at school until 2pm and he is at the babysitter until about 11:45pm.

 

[LdiJ]

Yes he is at school until 2pm and he is at the babysitter until about 11:45pm.

Do you realize that dad could make a very strong case for primary custody due to that schedule? You are not available for the child at all during the week. The child hardly sees you at all.

Unless dad also works second shift he would be much more available for the child than you are.

You had best be able to figure out some way for dad to speak to his child during the week, or you could find yourself losing primary custody. Perhaps arrangements could be made for dad to call the daycare facility?

 

[janM]

Yes he is at school until 2pm and he is at the babysitter until about 11:45pm.

And he's 4?? Is this preschool? Why isn't he home with you, at least some days? Dad could talk to him then.

So he's up till nearly midnight (or gets his sleep disrupted to go home) and gets up for school in the morning? If so, that is not nearly enough sleep.

I don't blame Dad for being ticked.

 

[liss870]

First his father doesnt have a job he sells drugs. Which I have reported to the drug task force and nothing has ever been done. I dont even have an address for where he is living at the time, he didnt pick him up for his time in the summer and I havent seen a child support check since sept 2007.

 

[LdiJ]

First his father doesnt have a job he sells drugs. Which I have reported to the drug task force and nothing has ever been done. I dont even have an address for where he is living at the time, he didnt pick him up for his time in the summer and I havent seen a child support check since sept 2007.

What hard evidence do you have, to present to court, that dad is a drug dealer?

Seriously mom, you are walking a thin line on this one. You had really best find a way to make arrangements for dad to call the child. I am sure the daycare facility could accomodate you if you discussed it with them.

 

[liss870]

I dont have physical evidence but we did get along at one point. I have witnessed it and he has told me. I also know he smokes weed in front of my son and he thinks thats ok. And my mother picked him up from his house one time and there was a bong on the table. I have even talked to cps about that and they told me to talk to the drug task force and nothin has ever been done. So basically because I am a hard worker and believe in giving my child the best life I can I have to be ounished for that? So he can sit around and smoke and drink all say and do nothing and just get to complain about things? When he does call and talk to him he wont call for weeks at a time. If he calls once and doesnt get an answer he will call over and over and leave message after message.

 

[sometwo]

Yes he is at school until 2pm and he is at the babysitter until about 11:45pm

Are you saying you only see your child awake on the weekends and for a few minutes in the morning?

 

[TheGeekess]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
So I live in Arkansas now and My 4 year old sons father still lives in California, I have custody he gets to see him in the summers and occasional holidays. In our court orders it says he is allowed to call 1 time per day for 10 mins. My problem is My son goes to school from 8 until 2pm. And I work from 3 to 11pm. He goes to a daycare facility immediatley after school. His father is having a fit because he cant talk to him during the week. I have explained to him our schedules and that he can call on the weekends but he is still calling and harrassing me everyday. I also have a restraining order against him that is supposed to prevent him from calling repeatedly but everytime I call the police they basically just call him and tell him not to call anymore and nothing happens. What can I do about this? He expects us to not have a life like him and just sit by the phone everyday and wait for him to call.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

Purchase a pre-paid cell phone so Dad can call Junior at the babysitters during the week. It's really not difficult unless you want it to be.

 

[Isis1]

Purchase a pre-paid cell phone so Dad can call Junior at the babysitters during the week. It's really not difficult unless you want it to be.

seriously!!


when my kids are not with me during dad's phone call hours, i make sure whoever is with them as dad's phone number in case their cell phone battery dies, or other cell phone catastrophe. i call every 30 minutes to make sure kiddos talked to dad. if dad hasn't called by 8pm, i have them call dad. i'm not violating my court order for NOTHING!

 

[Just Blue]

seriously!!


when my kids are not with me during dad's phone call hours, i make sure whoever is with them as dad's phone number in case their cell phone battery dies, or other cell phone catastrophe. i call every 30 minutes to make sure kiddos talked to dad. if dad hasn't called by 8pm, i have them call dad. i'm not violating my court order for NOTHING!

I know. How stupid to not give Dad the # to the sitter so that he might call his child!!

 

[TheGeekess]

I know. How stupid to not give Dad the # to the sitter so that he might call his child!!

Fully concur and raise you ....

 

[111aaapeowed]

confused

I can't believe you guys are criticizing her for trying to support her family by working. Do you realize how expensive it is to raise children as a single parent? It seems to me that she has tried to do her best and that maybe if the dad was so concerned for his child, he would pay his child support with his drug money!