Thank you! I don't have a case number, but I will look around on the site to try to learn more information.
OK, you know she filed.
Next step - go to the courthouse and pick up a copy of what she filed. Then respond to it.
There's probable enough information online to guide you through the process.
That's really helpful, I didn't know I could go down and pick up a copy. Thank you for your help!
Child support is automatically supposed to be ordered because it is for the benefit of the CHILD -- not a detriment to either parent. And where is YOUR attorney?
I'm not trying to get out of anything, I'm just trying to figure out the proper steps to take next. And I wish I knew where my attorney was. He's gone completely dark--not returning phone calls, not returning emails. I sent him another email after my disaster of a visit this weekend, and I plan to follow up with a phone call again on Wednesday. After that, I suppose I'll send a certified letter. I wanted to to replace my attorney, but I couldn't find anyone in Cincinnati with a reasonable retainer. Everyone I called wants at least $2500. So I'm sort of stuck.
posting Hx or lack there of is relevant.
I have apologized profusely for deleting my original threads. I have been posting as directed in the sticky since. I don't know how this is relevant....I've learned my lesson, I swear.
Have you filed for SSDI?
Yes, she'll be granted some support. That's pretty much guaranteed. The only thing possibly in question is "how much?".
I've filed for SSDI twice in the past. I'm on my third time now, this time with an attorney. I have a much more solid medical history (testing, etc) than I had in the past, so I'm hopeful. I'm just trying to figure out how I can respond in order to keep her from getting some default amount without any consideration given to the situation. I've heard that it usually takes at least three times and a lawyer before SSDI is granted and with epilepsy it's particularly tricky, because the courts view you as being disabled one moment (when you're seizing) and "abled" the next (when you're not).
I would suggest you find a way to help support your child. How have you been supporting yourself?
I really wish it were just that easy. I would give anything to be able to support myself AND my daughter. If I could do something to magically be out of this situation, I would. When my ex and I were together, I worked three jobs so that she could stay at home with our daughter. My seizures started when I was 23, and I literally lost EVERYTHING. She cheated on me and left me for someone who makes 100k a year. I lost my license, I lost my daughter (not by a court order, just by circumstance), I lost all of my old friends, I was homeless, jobless, everything. I almost lost my life on several occasions. For awhile, I was having over 100 seizures a month. I'm a lot more stable now, but I have what's known as intractable epilepsy. Basically, it doesn't respond to medication (at least not completely) and is exacerbated by stress. Every time I start working, my seizures get worse, and I get let go because I have to leave and go to the hospital too often. I would give ANYTHING for this to stop. I'm a hard worker, I do everything I can think of to make some kind of living, basically without any success. Epilepsy stole my ability to control my own life. I'm having a partial lobe resection in December, in hopes that it will help, if not cure, my seizures. There's no guarantee. Currently, my fiance supports me...and it's the most emasculating thing I've ever had to go through. I know that a lot of times guys just don't want to pay, but please don't make assumptions that it's just that easy for everyone to find and keep a job.