What is a parent's obligation to the other regarding childcare?

[ecmst12]

Seems to me that you know the sister's name, address, and telephone number anyway.

 

[las365]

I don't think that it is fundamentally wrong for your ex to make the choice to let the kids be home unsupervised after school, and I don't think you are wrong for being concerned about it. This could be a great opportunity for you to work together to educate the girls about responsibility, safety, and what they should do in case of emergency - also to sit with them and have a frank discussion of whether they feel worried or lonely when they are at home by themselves after school. If they do, your ex may be more open to your suggestion of afterschool care. If not, you may feel more comfortable with things as is.

With this approach, hopefully your ex should stop deceiving you about babysitting arrangements to avoid dealing with your objections.

 

[olhobbes]

Seems to me that you know the sister's name, address, and telephone number anyway.

Not the issue I am having a problem with...or rather, not the issue I was trying to address. It was the lying about who is watching our child that I was concerned about ( at least, as far as this thread ).

But it seems neither issue is of any consequence. I have little choice but to accept that.

I don't think that it is fundamentally wrong for your ex to make the choice to let the kids be home unsupervised after school, and I don't think you are wrong for being concerned about it. This could be a great opportunity for you to work together to educate the girls about responsibility, safety, and what they should do in case of emergency - also to sit with them and have a frank discussion of whether they feel worried or lonely when they are at home by themselves after school. If they do, your ex may be more open to your suggestion of afterschool care. If not, you may feel more comfortable with things as is.

With this approach, hopefully your ex should stop deceiving you about babysitting arrangements to avoid dealing with your objections.

I have tried, and will continue to do so, but any approach of such issues and mom becomes aggressive and uncommunicative. I have analyzed my approach with mom, I have been as polite and unthreatening as I can be while not dismissing my concerns.

In the end, it seems I don't have many options; I can teach my daughter how to keep herself safe and hope nothing happens.

( I may not say it with every post, but I absolutely appreciate every response in this thread. Thank you all )

 

[ecmst12]

If the only thing stated in the court order is that you need to know the contact information for the caregivers, that requirement is being met. There is no contempt. You are trying to control too much and digging for dirt to throw on your ex.