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My father died in November 2007. He left no will. He was divorced from my mother for 15 years. She is remarried. There are three children, a brother in the West, a sister in Missouri and me in the East.
My father had a house that he purchased about 10 years ago. The mortgage is paid. He had some vacation property, a car, a boat, furniture, tools, machines and appliances, cash, bank accounts, a pension, personal items, etc. My sister is the most likely candidate to administer the estate. She was primary caregiver and had power of attorney over his healthcare issues. However, she gets very emotional – sad or angry – when I bring up estate issues.
I hate that I’m beginning to get concerned frustrated and angry with her, but I feel that there may be important issues that are not being addressed. I feel that my sister may be unable or unwilling to step up for this. At worst, I feel she is taking advantage of the consideration being shown her. I need do something so that I can stop thinking about it. We supported each other throughout my father’s illness and have always enjoyed a good relationship, which I want to continue.
She has moved from her rental home into my father’s house. His items have been moved to storage and his cash and valuables placed in her safety deposit box. She has been doing costly, but necessary repairs to the house. She has also begun cosmetic upgrades and is shopping for new furniture. She assumes all of these items will be paid for with estate funds.
I travelled to Missouri often during my father’s illness, so I do not have the time off to do so now, nor do I have the personal funds to hire an attorney. I would appreciate any advice or expertise about how to navigate this issue. What steps must be taken and when?
Thank you.What is the name of your state?
My father died in November 2007. He left no will. He was divorced from my mother for 15 years. She is remarried. There are three children, a brother in the West, a sister in Missouri and me in the East.
My father had a house that he purchased about 10 years ago. The mortgage is paid. He had some vacation property, a car, a boat, furniture, tools, machines and appliances, cash, bank accounts, a pension, personal items, etc. My sister is the most likely candidate to administer the estate. She was primary caregiver and had power of attorney over his healthcare issues. However, she gets very emotional – sad or angry – when I bring up estate issues.
I hate that I’m beginning to get concerned frustrated and angry with her, but I feel that there may be important issues that are not being addressed. I feel that my sister may be unable or unwilling to step up for this. At worst, I feel she is taking advantage of the consideration being shown her. I need do something so that I can stop thinking about it. We supported each other throughout my father’s illness and have always enjoyed a good relationship, which I want to continue.
She has moved from her rental home into my father’s house. His items have been moved to storage and his cash and valuables placed in her safety deposit box. She has been doing costly, but necessary repairs to the house. She has also begun cosmetic upgrades and is shopping for new furniture. She assumes all of these items will be paid for with estate funds.
I travelled to Missouri often during my father’s illness, so I do not have the time off to do so now, nor do I have the personal funds to hire an attorney. I would appreciate any advice or expertise about how to navigate this issue. What steps must be taken and when?
Thank you.What is the name of your state?