No she is not. We have discussed it multiple times, but shes never wanted to go through with it. The closest thing shes had in the past is medication. She immediately stopped that do to her feeling like a zombie all the time. Children 6,4,3,22 months. So I know she has her hands full as do I when she is at work or at friends.
My workplace is only about 5 minutes from our house. One child is in kindergarten and two more in preschool. Luckily we've never had an emergency, but 90% of the time the van which houses the car seats the majority of the time is home and we have great neighbors who've we talked who would have no problem helping out.
Sorry for all of the out of order replies. This time I happened to take the van to work since it was the quickest to get to and I was close to running late. And you are right that we don't install and uninstall the car seats that often. 90% of the time they are in the van as that is the easiest vehicle to haul everybody in. I'm glad someone seems to agree with me that it was irresponsible of her not to let me know where they are and not allowing me to speak with them. I have no clue what's going on over there and just hearing their voices would put a little peace in my mind. It was her mother and stepfather who picked them up. While the stepfather seems to be a decent human being her mother not so much. It was only when my wife's biological father messaged me that they (wife and mother) had went to the courthouse.
You might consider hiring a sitter to assist her during the day. That is a lot to handle while dealing with depression. Suggest to her therapy and perhaps a different medication. Anti-depressants are not all the same ...she can work with her psychologist on finding one that suits her better.
Maybe a little too late for that
Huh? ANY reasonable and responsible person takes the time to confirm that the car seat(s) are installed properly in the vehicle EVERY time they place a child in it. Furthermore, ANY reasonable and responsible parent who is leaving children with the other parent makes SURE that the other parent has the car seats, even if they only have one car. "Time consuming" doesn't even enter the equation. There is NOTHING more important that can't wait.
In other words, she has to make sure you agree to her going out.
Yea, that must be it. Car seats usually stay in the van, but always readjusted everytime one the boys get it. I was home by Noon. She's never even fully up by then. I happened to be called in on my day off to help someone out and took the available vehicle. Nice assumptions being made. We usually have RESPECT for each other to let on know when one decides to go out with kids. I don't want her driving with just anybody with precious cargo. Let alone someone who would put my kids at risk to spite me.
To an extent. Most places that we have tried have just been in an out and offering medication. Never really wanting to put in the effort to see what exactly is wrong.
When did she start having issues?
Probably after getting pregnant at such short intervals.
Yikes.
Sorry if I come across that way. I'm not perfect by any means and I'm sure it may come across that way sometimes. Out of all the arguments my wife and I have had over the years, me being controlling has never been brought up. I may do little things here and there that I don't notice, but she's never complained about that aspect. I will be trying to contact a family law attorney tomorrow as soon as they open. My post was just seeking advice and just an outlet to help me ease the pain of missing my family.