what rights do I have as the father of an unborn child?

[Isis1]

Are you my doctor now? You can now determine if I'm on meds or not?

From the looks of it, you should be. You are too biased to be posting. You are attempting to take your anger out on someone else because of your bad life choices. You made your choices. Even with a thump on the head warning sign. But you chose to ignore it and get to ride the fallout.

 

[stepmom4ever]

I dont deserve to be called a name on this board...talk about legalities...you're calling people names and that's very disrespectful. I'm not ranting, but you guys talk one thing then say another thing. How do you expect people to listen to anything you have to say when you guys can be bias as well

 

[acmb05]

I dont deserve to be called a name on this board...talk about legalities...you're calling people names and that's very disrespectful. I'm not ranting, but you guys talk one thing then say another thing. How do you expect people to listen to anything you have to say when you guys can be bias as well

I apologize for the name calling, it was out of line. You are being vindictive though and you are not giving the OP good advice at all.

Your case was completely different from this case which is why the answers are different here.

 

[liandrajade]

I dont deserve to be called a name on this board...talk about legalities...you're calling people names and that's very disrespectful. I'm not ranting, but you guys talk one thing then say another thing. How do you expect people to listen to anything you have to say when you guys can be bias as well

Ummm... cupcake its called constructive criticism, means someone points something out to you that appears ridiculous in an attempt to get you to re evaluate how you are doing things or saying things. Acmb05 pointed out that I looked like I was attacking another poster, you do not see me going off on a loony tangent on him/her do you?

You accept the opinion, if you're wrong say your wrong, if not then politely explain your point of view and agree to disagree. Your venom laden rants are apparent that this hit a chord with you, which I know at times when it comes to GPV cases I can get a bit pissy myself due to how close the subject is to me.

Take a chill pill.....relax...life goes on, go hug a chipmunk or ride a rainbow pony to happy land

 

[stepmom4ever]

Ummm... cupcake its called constructive criticism, means someone points something out to you that appears ridiculous in an attempt to get you to re evaluate how you are doing things or saying things. Acmb05 pointed out that I looked like I was attacking another poster, you do not see me going off on a loony tangent on him/her do you?

You accept the opinion, if you're wrong say your wrong, if not then politely explain your point of view and agree to disagree. Your venom laden rants are apparent that this hit a chord with you, which I know at times when it comes to GPV cases I can get a bit pissy myself due to how close the subject is to me.

Take a chill pill.....relax...life goes on, go hug a chipmunk or ride a rainbow pony to happy land

First of all, I'm not your cupcake and dont call me another name again. Further, it's one thing to give good criticism but when Im called a name in the process, I dont give a damn what's said after that. I dont call no one on this board names and I expect the same in return...regardless how I act, rant, get pissy....whatever. I received an aoplogy for being called stupid and that's that's.

 

[Proserpina]

First of all, I'm not your cupcake and dont call me another name again. Further, it's one thing to give good criticism but when Im called a name in the process, I dont give a damn what's said after that. I dont call no one on this board names and I expect the same in return...regardless how I act, rant, get pissy....whatever. I received an aoplogy for being called stupid and that's that's.

Frankly, your "don't give a damn" attitude is what sunk you in the first place. Perhaps it would be better for you if you learned from your past mistakes instead of projecting your anger and bitterness onto other posters. Acmb apologized (and graciously), so you may want to stop posting to this thread now.

OP, I also apologize for the direction this thread took. You have received some decent information though. Perhaps if you return, you might want to stick around and read through older posts to give you more of an idea of how family law works - and give you some insight as to who is responding to you

(That may be quite enlightening )

 

[stepmom4ever]

Frankly, your "don't give a damn" attitude is what sunk you in the first place. Perhaps it would be better for you if you learned from your past mistakes instead of projecting your anger and bitterness onto other posters. Acmb apologized (and graciously), so you may want to stop posting to this thread now.

OP, I also apologize for the direction this thread took. You have received some decent information though. Perhaps if you return, you might want to stick around and read through older posts to give you more of an idea of how family law works - and give you some insight as to who is responding to you

(That may be quite enlightening )

And like I said, I received the apoplogy and I accept it....I'm free to post at any time as long as I'm not disrespecting anyone.

 

[cyjeff]

And like I said, I received the apoplogy and I accept it....I'm free to post at any time as long as I'm not disrespecting anyone.

And, again, I am free to post how you are completely and utterly wrong.

Take 10 seconds and Google "Texas Putative Fathers Registry"... just take a minute.

Then, you can take a deep breath, have a glass of sweet iced tea and apologize

 

[liandrajade]

First of all, I'm not your cupcake and dont call me another name again. Further, it's one thing to give good criticism but when Im called a name in the process, I dont give a damn what's said after that. I dont call no one on this board names and I expect the same in return...regardless how I act, rant, get pissy....whatever. I received an aoplogy for being called stupid and that's that's.

Ok, CUPCAKE. I will refrain from addressing you using the highly insulting evil nomenclature of "cupcake".

 

[Just Blue]

Ok, CUPCAKE. I will refrain from addressing you using the highly insulting evil nomenclature of "cupcake".

Read c'cakes posting history.

OR you could look up the word "nimrod" in Websters and see cupcakes pic.

 

[InfantCustody]

Wrong. 100% wrong.

He is seeing his child because he has legally established his right to do so. You judgment of his behavior means absolutely nothing.

If a father establishes paternity and files for visitation, that visitation is not ... not even a little... dependent upon the mother's opinion of that father and/or his actions and if he is worthy of visiting his own child.

If the father has NOT legally established his rights to his child, then he is a moron to be putting up with this whole "you need to prove to me that you have been good enough this week to see your child" crap.

Actually, he hasn't seen the child with any consistency BECAUSE OF HIS ACTIONS.

Such as when he refused to agree to a time to return the child...I didn't let him go with Dad with no end time because of his actions.

Such as when he went to Canada for 2+ weeks...he didn't see him because he wasn't here.

Such as when he disappeared for three weeks...he didn't see him because of his actions.

You ASSUMED you knew what I meant by that when in point of fact you are WRONG. I don't care when, if or how Dad speaks to me. We communicate primarily via e-mail and text...and with a pre-printed written daily log to avoid any miscommunications.

[QUOTEI saw that... but to even PRETEND that the father of the child has to jump through some hoop to see his own child is reprehensible.

Mom doesn't have to jump through hoops... neither does dad.

If she wanted a man to be worthy of caring for her child, the time to do that was before conception.

Now, she can, legally, deny visitation... but the judge will not look favorably upon that decision.

Or these conditions.... or his penalties if he doesn't live up to mom's standards..[/QUOTE]


I am well aware that Dad can take care of him as he wants, in his time. Believe me...when he comes home dirty and smelling bad from lack of proper wiping I don't say anything except an e-mail to request he pay more attention. I don't even "suspend" his time when he doesn't feed him for 5 hours...I just send him an e-mail and tell him the doctors said he has to eat at least every 4 hours. He ignores me, I make a note of it if it is needed for the future and feed the baby extra.

I even "let" (yes, I said "let") him see him half of Thanksgiving day. Same will go for Christmas Eve. Not because I had to, but because it was the right thing to do!

I am not perfect, and I don't claim to be, but don't even say Dad is having to prove himself to see our son or is having to treat me with any kind of decency. He has proven himself to be baby ignorant, but he is still OUR son and he still sees him regularly.

Dad didn't even file for rights in court...I ended up filing so we all have legally defined rights...

Please don't ASSUME...because afterall...you know what happens then?

My advice still stands. Dad should play nice to Mom if he wants to see the baby before court. Otherwise...he will wait for a judge.

Have a super-great night!!

 

[TheGeekess]

Here's the bottom line:

If OP wanted to know everything that happens to Mom before she gives birth he should have married her.

If OP wanted immediate rights to Baby after birth, he should have been married to Mom.

OP will have to file for paternity/visitation/custody/support after said child is born. There is no telling how long it is going to take.

A putative father's registry is mainly to keep babies from being adopted out by moms without input from putative fathers.

 

[cbg]

This is neither InfantCustody's nor StepMom4ever's thread.

Therefore, neither of them has any business pushing their issues or situations into it.

Back off, please, both of you, and give the OP, whose thread this is, a chance.

 

[stepmom4ever]

knock it off. You don't like it when people call you names, but you think it's okay for you to do? It's not.

excuse me!!! Did you read what was said to me....it was said "and yes, im calling you an ass.....and i can't say that back to the poster...are you kiddin me, she or he is what they called me, period

 

[Proserpina]

excuse me!!! Did you read what was said to me....it was said "and yes, im calling you an ass.....and i can't say that back to the poster...are you kiddin me, she or he is what they called me, period

KNOCK IT OFF!

What are you - 12?!?!?!

Seriously - QUIT POSTING. You're making yourself look like a complete idiot!

Jeez woman - won't you learn?!