wife being totally unreasonable-costing me $$$$ in legals

[mistoffolees]

Your lawyer already let you give her $144k tax free money for the last two years without a court order. Take your lawyers feedback with a grain of salt.

Given the numbers involved, it might well be worth a second opinion.

There may be a legitimate reason why the lawyer told him to pay her that much money, but a consultation with a second attorney would tell him that.

Given that it looks suspiciously like his current attorney is doing things that are going to unreasonably add expense, that second opinion is doubly warranted.

 

[Bali Hai]

Actually, the court can give him a 'gold star' for doing that. If he simply throws his wife out on the street with no money and no support, that can be a SERIOUS problem when they get in front of a judge. Furthermore, some courts will take into account the months that the payor is supporting the payee while the divorce is pending when they set the final alimony amount.

I would not simply stop paying without discussing it with my attorney.

Nobody suggested that he stop paying at all.

The court simply WILL NOT give him any credit for doing the right thing absent a court order. You know that and I know that. Forget the good will, courts don't acknowledge that unless they choose to do so.

Furthermore, nobody remotely suggested that he throw his wife out on the street with no money and no support.

You have far more trust that officers of the court will act in the best interest of clients than I do, and, you have far more distrust that men will do the right thing than I do.

Well here is an example of a man doing the right thing and getting screwed doing so by his lawyer.

Doesn't matter, because if he went before the court, it will be the same result.

 

[tuffbrk]

In a year when OP is at the lower spectrum of his salary ($125K), $6k a month is more than 50% of his salary. I think his attorney is a nitwit who has established status quo at an amount that is not in OP's best interests. At this point, if I were OP and my receivables were down in 2011, I'd decrease the interim support amount by the same percentage - unless of course it had been court ordered. If it is a court order, I'd have a motion filed to get the amount decreased.

 

[stresseddivorce]

I appreciate the input. As of this time, i cancelled the job testing and i have reduced how much i am giving her as i can no longer afford to pay that amount. I have 6 weeks until court and now all the depos are starting and becoming very stressful. Frankly i have no idea which way it may go in court but hope the judge will be considerate.