Wife has a boyfriend. We been Married for 8 years with kids.

[Isis1]

No I'm not financially stable right now because she was supporting me for three years. I was a home dad. So what exactly can I do,? just forget what happen and probably be put on child support which she probably is going to file.

don't do this to yourself. look at my previous post.

 

[lso7also7a]

look, this isn't a support group. we can't help you there. we are a legal advice site.

i get what you are going through. seriously. but right now...you can't go to pieces. this is NOT the time. you have to stick this in a drawer and come back to it. your children need you to get it together.

Thanks for the advice.

 

[Proserpina]

Right. Time to FOCUS.

You seem to be the primary caregiver. Is there any chance of you moving back into the marital home? Being a SAHP might change things drastically.

So get your head on straight, and consider the situation (with Mom at least) as a business matter. I know it sounds cold, but you can't let emotion get in the way.

Read this to begin with: http://www.courts.state.va.us/forms/home.html

Go to deltabravo.com.

Read other threads - stick to VA threads - and you can learn a whole lot.

 

[Ohiogal]

I left the house the same day I found out she was cheating, which was 2 days ago.
The kids are with her at the moment.
Health insurance, only herself and kids, she said she forgot to add me, we just got it last year.
and yes I wan't to end this marriage for good.
What can I do?

Go back to the house and take care of the children. Or you are telling the court that she is fine for primary custody. She forgot to add you? She's been out of this marriage for a while then. You also need to file for divorce, request alimony, sole possession of the marital home and for your wife to cover your health insurance costs -- you have attempted to obtain insurance through the ACA, right? If not you need to do that. Also request a no paramour order so wifey can't take the children around her sex buddy.

 

[single317dad]

OP, what I'm seeing from you is a defeatist attitude. Your main points seem to be that you want alimony and that it's a given you'll end up paying support and won't get custody of the kids. Take OG's and Isis's advice and get on the ball. Do things right, and this could work out for you. Mope around with a chip on your shoulder, and you'll be back in a year crying foul over the "unfair" decision the judge made.

She cheated. People do that. She's a rotten person. It doesn't matter. Drop the issue, and move forward with your life.

 

[CJane]

But EVEN IF you move back home, resume your responsibilities as the SAHP through the duration of the divorce, etc... you STILL NEED A JOB. Being a single SAHP just isn't a reasonable expectation.