Wife took the kids, won't tell me where they are.

[PicoDeWhy]

Hmmmm...

And then again, NO. That is NOT a guarantee at all. She might be asked to REIMBURSE you for legal fees but you would have to get counsel on your own. And there is NO guarantee that she would have to pay you. And depending on the overall picture, you might not get awarded alimony at all.

Where did I say anything about any guarantees?? Please think through your responses before you post to make sure they're not wasteful of this free advice time! : )

 

[Proserpina]

you get what you pay for with free advice.
Actually I've already sat down with a lawyer and this is what I've been told. It obvious you have an ax to grind
with something else in your life. Don't take it out on a stranger who's trying to do the best he can for all involved.
I hope you get help.

Tell me the name of the attorney who told you that you'll get alimony and all legal fees awarded.

You're acting with less maturity than your 4 year old - you realize this, right?

 

[PicoDeWhy]

thank you.

actually, "SuperDad", only one attorney asked you questions and gave you advice. the rest of us never claimed to be attorneys.

the problem is....we have to ask questions to get the bottom of the story and to get a good feel of the situation you are in.

normally, you being the primary caretaker would give you a good advantage of being the primary parent. if the children escaping the residence was a one time issue, then it would not have much of an impact. but the situation would drastically change if this was a habit of yours.

mom leaving and running with the children over this one occurrence is suspect. either this isn't her only gripe, or she's been planning this for some time and jumped at the first opportunity.

we can only tell you that mom cannot be forced to give over the children without you filing a divorce and demanding a visitation schedule of some sort.

Appreciate it.

 

[LdiJ]

For a few seconds I heatedly told her she knew better than that. Wouldn't you get a little heated
to make a serious point for the safety of your child. YES it was my fault! But when you have kids
you don't always make the perfect decisions.

You actually got "heated"?...in a situation where you were totally in the wrong?

 

[Proserpina]

You actually got "heated"?...in a situation where you were totally in the wrong?

It was 4 year old's fault. All of it. Everything that happened.

 

[PicoDeWhy]

Yes. That is what happened.

You actually got "heated"?...in a situation where you were totally in the wrong?

I guess you must be from planet super people who never get heated when they're wrong.
What is wrong with you? Get a life.

 

[Ohiogal]

The OG effect strikes again!

Must have happened on that jog.

 

[stealth2]

A small verbal fight ensued, I got very upset that it had happened and scolded our 4 year old who I thought should've known better.
Of course I take full responsibility with it happening. Nothing like it has ever happened before and I've been a full time stay-at-home
parent for almost five years now. I've had problems with anger and depression, but NEVER put my kids in danger or threaten them or my wife in any way. I sometimes have to let my anger out by breaking something, but never do that in front of the kids or wife and have absolutely no urge to hurt them in any way. I'm thinking that this was just the icing on the cake of something that's been brewing for some time. Hopefully we can mediate it without a court battle.

Always interesting how details come out. Expect Mom to bring up your anger issues. Most people do not need to break things to get their anger out. This should be a wake-up call for you to get anger management.

Apart from that? Given your rude post, I would suggest that you seek the advice on an attorney you need to pay.