Of course I blame the both of them for this stupid mistake. I am just trying to understand this issue better and find out what can be done ro resolve this issue since i am dealing with 2 people who already made a stupid decision in the past and i need to protect myself and my kids. I am just in shocked about this whole situation. And she wants to get married over there and she can't and is pressuring him to do something about it here but she doesnt realize this is a bigger issue than she realizes because 16 years later there is another wife and 2 kids and there are legal issues and people can face crimal charges.