Mrsmonster
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What is the name of your state?Georgia
I've been married 20 years to someone who was calculating abusive and extremely manipulative I came into the marriage with my own home $10,000 cash brand new car. When he died I had $30. My name is not on any titles or bank accounts. His kids got bulk of life insurance and his share of mother's estate ( she died 1 year before he did). I got $5000 of his life insurance all went to hire a lawyer. She has never asked me any questions I've never met her. I can tell she is not telling me things she knows I won't like. I have no money to hire anyone else. His children filed a petition to have county attorney as administrator due to a history of drug use. ( I've been sober 24 years didn't even meet husband until after I became sober). They also filed caveat to years support stating we have been separated for three years and I refuse to care for him during his illness. We never were separated and he was bedridden a year prior to death I took care of him in a loving caring way that he did not deserve or had roles been reversed would have ever done for me. He died as a result of being hung upside in an electric lift machine as I tried to get him unhung. I could not get him high enough to get to the straps off him. Nurses took off to find scissors to cut him out but he was dead by the time they got back. His family had taken possession of his body before I made it home from hospital and have done every mean ugly nasty thing they can think of. I have been able to see the big picture since he death. While he was alive he kept me so isolated traumatized and feeling worthless. Everytime I objected to his or his family's abusive treatment of me they would remind me that no one will believe a drug addict every one hates me and if you want to leave go ahead but it's a long walk to Texas ( my mom lives there). Unbeknownst to me he has told everyone in the community his financial problems were because of my drug problem. The truth is he handled money like a child spending bill money on toys. I thought I was free but his family and the probate court have just picked up were he left off. I know in Georgia the judge can make things fair with years support. I live in a small town and the narrative being told about me it's not even near true. What is the smartest thing for me to do. I'm 54 years need a new heart valve and have no means of support ( in laws withheld my mail caused me to lose my health insurance). I put off my surgery to care for my husband. My heart was damaged when I didn't receive treatment for a common treatable infection and it spread to my heart. Was brought to ER near death spent 8 weeks in the hospital
I've been married 20 years to someone who was calculating abusive and extremely manipulative I came into the marriage with my own home $10,000 cash brand new car. When he died I had $30. My name is not on any titles or bank accounts. His kids got bulk of life insurance and his share of mother's estate ( she died 1 year before he did). I got $5000 of his life insurance all went to hire a lawyer. She has never asked me any questions I've never met her. I can tell she is not telling me things she knows I won't like. I have no money to hire anyone else. His children filed a petition to have county attorney as administrator due to a history of drug use. ( I've been sober 24 years didn't even meet husband until after I became sober). They also filed caveat to years support stating we have been separated for three years and I refuse to care for him during his illness. We never were separated and he was bedridden a year prior to death I took care of him in a loving caring way that he did not deserve or had roles been reversed would have ever done for me. He died as a result of being hung upside in an electric lift machine as I tried to get him unhung. I could not get him high enough to get to the straps off him. Nurses took off to find scissors to cut him out but he was dead by the time they got back. His family had taken possession of his body before I made it home from hospital and have done every mean ugly nasty thing they can think of. I have been able to see the big picture since he death. While he was alive he kept me so isolated traumatized and feeling worthless. Everytime I objected to his or his family's abusive treatment of me they would remind me that no one will believe a drug addict every one hates me and if you want to leave go ahead but it's a long walk to Texas ( my mom lives there). Unbeknownst to me he has told everyone in the community his financial problems were because of my drug problem. The truth is he handled money like a child spending bill money on toys. I thought I was free but his family and the probate court have just picked up were he left off. I know in Georgia the judge can make things fair with years support. I live in a small town and the narrative being told about me it's not even near true. What is the smartest thing for me to do. I'm 54 years need a new heart valve and have no means of support ( in laws withheld my mail caused me to lose my health insurance). I put off my surgery to care for my husband. My heart was damaged when I didn't receive treatment for a common treatable infection and it spread to my heart. Was brought to ER near death spent 8 weeks in the hospital