DespMan_KC
Junior Member
Hi all, I am in MI and am in a particularly difficult situation I hope there is a resolution for---
She filed for divorce reluctantly in March after being unfaithful and having a boyfriend for a year. She has tried to reconcile but after an initial attempt to work things out, theres no trusting her again. But her being unfaithful is irrelevant apparently.
She's been a stay at home mom to our son for 6 years and loves to spend money. She just recently got a job making about 30k (even thought she doesn't believe she should have to go back to work). I own a business and have a salary of about 110k. I get a couple bonuses every year of a combined total that doubles my salary, however, I put 90% of that total back into the business. So we have lived/only live off of my salary. So obviously my W2 shows my income as being much higher than what I really take home.
She is asking for 100k per year for the next 10 years (in addition to alimony and child support, continued payments/insurance on her expensive car, a $1 million life insurance policy, and a country club membership) It is all completely unreasonable and she basically wants to maintain her "no-work-spend-like-there's-no-tomorrow" lifestyle. If she gets what she wants, my business will sink and I will be left with 22k, if that, to live off of.
First mediation was last week....I tell the mediator i cant give her that because I dont have that money. I would have to take that money out of my business and if I do, my business will not be viable. He said "Doesn't matter. That's your income. You need to prove to me why that income figure should not take into account that money." So basically, if she gets what she wants, I'll lose my business and be living out of a box while she continues to live the "high life". Do I have any options at this point?? Is there a way around this or a way to prove that she can't get at that money??? What can be done??? Please help!
She filed for divorce reluctantly in March after being unfaithful and having a boyfriend for a year. She has tried to reconcile but after an initial attempt to work things out, theres no trusting her again. But her being unfaithful is irrelevant apparently.
She's been a stay at home mom to our son for 6 years and loves to spend money. She just recently got a job making about 30k (even thought she doesn't believe she should have to go back to work). I own a business and have a salary of about 110k. I get a couple bonuses every year of a combined total that doubles my salary, however, I put 90% of that total back into the business. So we have lived/only live off of my salary. So obviously my W2 shows my income as being much higher than what I really take home.
She is asking for 100k per year for the next 10 years (in addition to alimony and child support, continued payments/insurance on her expensive car, a $1 million life insurance policy, and a country club membership) It is all completely unreasonable and she basically wants to maintain her "no-work-spend-like-there's-no-tomorrow" lifestyle. If she gets what she wants, my business will sink and I will be left with 22k, if that, to live off of.
First mediation was last week....I tell the mediator i cant give her that because I dont have that money. I would have to take that money out of my business and if I do, my business will not be viable. He said "Doesn't matter. That's your income. You need to prove to me why that income figure should not take into account that money." So basically, if she gets what she wants, I'll lose my business and be living out of a box while she continues to live the "high life". Do I have any options at this point?? Is there a way around this or a way to prove that she can't get at that money??? What can be done??? Please help!
