wondering why my thread got closed

[xxnatalixx]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?


HMM? Anyone know?

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

You can reopen that thread. Admin probably closed it. But there are those of us who want to know what is going on. K'

 

[tornado88]

I don't know but am following your case so keep us posted!

 

[xxnatalixx]

You can reopen that thread. Admin probably closed it. But there are those of us who want to know what is going on. K'

Do you know why they would close it? Did I do something wrong?

 

[LdiJ]

Do you know why they would close it? Did I do something wrong?

No, you did nothing wrong. The admin often closes very long threads because most very long threads have degenerated into either bashing or silliness. Your thread was an exception to that and she probably just didn't have time to read it. You can reopen it or start a new thread to update us.

 

[xxnatalixx]

No, you did nothing wrong. The admin often closes very long threads because most very long threads have degenerated into either bashing or silliness. Your thread was an exception to that and she probably just didn't have time to read it. You can reopen it or start a new thread to update us.

Ok, I feel better now. I guess this will be the update one. I'm still waiting to hear from the court house, but it's 3:42, and I'm pretty sure they close at 4:15, so I don't know what to think. I'm going to go to the visitation center and tell them what's going on and show them the safety plan. Don't think there's much else I can do. I know if Dad knew about the safety plan that he wouldn't show up tonight, or probably ever again, but I'm not looking to start a war.

 

[LdiJ]

Ok, I feel better now. I guess this will be the update one. I'm still waiting to hear from the court house, but it's 3:42, and I'm pretty sure they close at 4:15, so I don't know what to think. I'm going to go to the visitation center and tell them what's going on and show them the safety plan. Don't think there's much else I can do. I know if Dad knew about the safety plan that he wouldn't show up tonight, or probably ever again, but I'm not looking to start a war.

Don't take your son with you. Leave him at home. Make a copy of the safety plan for the visitation center. Explain the situation briefly and then go home.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Heck, she isnt' going to have the child at the visitation center, I sure as heck wouldn't be heading home for that time frame. Any friend's you could visit for a few hours?

 

[wileybunch]

Great ideas and best of luck.

And, because your son is feeling very stressed by what's going on, since you know you're not taking him tonight, you can assure him that is the plan and say, hey, let's go to the movies tonight or something like that and just change gears so he can put some of his worries away.

This is making my stomach church and I'm very far removed. Can't imagine how he's feeling.

 

[xxnatalixx]

Don't worry, he will not be there. I am not going to stay long, but I do want them to have a copy of the safety plan. My grandma lives a couple blocks away from there, so I might hang out there for a while.

 

[xxnatalixx]

Ok, so first children services called and said that they wanted me to know that they were getting ready to contact dad. I'm not sure why they told me unless it was just a heads up in case he got mad or something. Then, a little before 5 the court house called and said that the magistrated signed off on the order to suspend visitation and that they are still trying to contact dad's attorney to see if she is still representing him. She said we don't have a date for the hearing yet, but that I can pick up the paper about the suspended visits in the morning! Praise God! Anyway, then children services called back and said that they interviewed dad, sm, and their kids and they all said there was no fight, so she decided to drop the safety plan. What exactly did they think they would say? Then I ran into an old co worker at Walmart who asked me if dad and sm still lived down the street from her parents. I said yes, and asked why. She said that her son was playing with sm's son and that sm's son told him that his mom and dad were fighting all the time and that he and his mom and sister might have to move out. Then my aunt called and said that dad's brother, who is a good friend of hers, was up at dad's house and decided to leave because dad was throwing a fit and threw something through the car window.(this was over the weekend, same fit) As I'm typing this, I just found out that dad's brother is living there again and dad has told me on numerous occasions that his brother molested him until he was 17.
I'm wondering now, is it common for a judge to sign off on something like suspending visitation if they don't think there really is a problem? That doesn't sound right, but I'm not sure how to say it. Basically, I'm wondering if it's "standard" to sign off on something like that until a hearing can be held on it or if this means he thinks there's good cause for it. It still sounds like a stupid question, but I'm nervous about it.

 

[wileybunch]

That is disappointing about children's services.
OTOH, glad the judge granted the suspension of visitation.
And, will be interesting to see how things tie together since now s-mom is covering for Dad, not that the judge will buy their version, but when he doesn't buy it, then he has to consider that that is the environment child is exposed to.

 

[Isis1]

Ok, so first children services called and said that they wanted me to know that they were getting ready to contact dad. I'm not sure why they told me unless it was just a heads up in case he got mad or something. Then, a little before 5 the court house called and said that the magistrated signed off on the order to suspend visitation and that they are still trying to contact dad's attorney to see if she is still representing him. She said we don't have a date for the hearing yet, but that I can pick up the paper about the suspended visits in the morning! Praise God! Anyway, then children services called back and said that they interviewed dad, sm, and their kids and they all said there was no fight, so she decided to drop the safety plan. What exactly did they think they would say? Then I ran into an old co worker at Walmart who asked me if dad and sm still lived down the street from her parents. I said yes, and asked why. She said that her son was playing with sm's son and that sm's son told him that his mom and dad were fighting all the time and that he and his mom and sister might have to move out. Then my aunt called and said that dad's brother, who is a good friend of hers, was up at dad's house and decided to leave because dad was throwing a fit and threw something through the car window.(this was over the weekend, same fit) As I'm typing this, I just found out that dad's brother is living there again and dad has told me on numerous occasions that his brother molested him until he was 17.
I'm wondering now, is it common for a judge to sign off on something like suspending visitation if they don't think there really is a problem? That doesn't sound right, but I'm not sure how to say it. Basically, I'm wondering if it's "standard" to sign off on something like that until a hearing can be held on it or if this means he thinks there's good cause for it. It still sounds like a stupid question, but I'm nervous about it.

well, i'm glad the judge signed off the order to suspend visitation.

however i am very concerned that sm is all honkey dorey after her hysteria. can you find out if ANY police officers did a welfare check on the house that day? any damage reported?

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

You said that a car window was broken, right? Wonder if the window is fixed yet? Anyone on that street that can get a picture of said car? Think you can "time stamp" a picture by including a cellphone display of the time along with the vehicle in question. You might have to have a few "witnesses" to say that it isn't peachy keen over at that house.

Was there ever any domestic violence when you were together with the father?

 

[xxnatalixx]

well, i'm glad the judge signed off the order to suspend visitation.

however i am very concerned that sm is all honkey dorey after her hysteria. can you find out if ANY police officers did a welfare check on the house that day? any damage reported?

I'll stop by the police station in the morning and see. It's only a few doors down from the court house anyway, and I have to pick up the order for suspended visits. I kind of figured SM would cover for dad. After all, she had the audacity to ask for joint custody the same night!