X took my son to a bar

[divorcebound]

What is the name of your state? TN

What can I do about this? My exhusband had his weekend visitation this past weekend and was going to take our son to a movie with his roomate and his son. I took our daughter back home. After the weekend was over my son starts telling me about him and his friend taking them to game land and leaving them while they went to a bar next door and then came back and got them and left them setting in the truck with an 18 year old to watch after them while they were in the bar. My X met a woman in the bar that he had come to his basement apartment the next night in which my son, walked in the bedroom and saw his dad on top of this woman. Prior to this happening, she was in the living room trying to stick her tongue in his mouth while my son was setting right there and my Ex told her she needed to have more respect for his kid. But then they preceed to the bedroom while my son is in the living room. Is there anything I can do about this?

 

[snostar]

Nope, not a darn thing. Dad's time is his to do with as he pleases, and nothing in your post describes that Dad put the child in danger.

 

[haiku]

no........

 

[bononos]

What is the name of your state? TN

What can I do about this? My exhusband had his weekend visitation this past weekend and was going to take our son to a movie with his roomate and his son. I took our daughter back home. After the weekend was over my son starts telling me about him and his friend taking them to game land and leaving them while they went to a bar next door and then came back and got them and left them setting in the truck with an 18 year old to watch after them while they were in the bar. My X met a woman in the bar that he had come to his basement apartment the next night in which my son, walked in the bedroom and saw his dad on top of this woman. Prior to this happening, she was in the living room trying to stick her tongue in his mouth while my son was setting right there and my Ex told her she needed to have more respect for his kid. But then they preceed to the bedroom while my son is in the living room. Is there anything I can do about this?

Just curious...how old is you son?

 

[divorcebound]

My son is 8 years old.

 

[betterthanher]

Looking at your previous threads, it looks like you are trying your best to try to control everything your ex is doing with the child. It certainly doesn't sound like your ex makes the 'best choices' when it comes to the women he's allegedly dating/picking up, but nothing you've described puts the child in danger.
It's HIS time. You're not going to agree with everything he does on his time, but that's how it works. You're gonna have to deal.

 

[bononos]

Was the 18 yr. old the driver?
If not, who drove after leaving the bar?
That would be the only issue I could see is that he is drinking and driving with the child, but then again, can it be proven?
And, if the 18 yr. old drove, there is no problem.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Well now, I guess daddy can't get laid right?

 

[stealth2]

My X met a woman in the bar that he had come to his basement apartment the next night in which my son, walked in the bedroom and saw his dad on top of this woman. <snip> But then they preceed to the bedroom while my son is in the living room. Is there anything I can do about this?

Teach your son to knock first.

 

[betterthanher]

Teach your son to knock first.

LMAO!!

 

[CJane]

Teach your son to knock first.

LOL That was my first thought too. That, or buy dad a lock for his bedroom door.

 

[hereintexas]

I can't believe

...you got so bashed for your concern about your child. Texas has a morals clause to protect children from this behavior. No overnight guests of the opposite sex, no sexual contact in front of the children. I personally couldn't care less about what my ex does or who he does it with, as I'm sure you don't either, but in front of a young child?? Why can't a parent who only sees their child on visitation want to spend their time that way? Something is wrong there. I get really tired of people not standing up for what is right when it comes to the children. Parents wouldn't send their kids to other people's homes who are not appropriate, why should we just lie down and take it from our ex-spouses? We have an obligation to the children to take care of them, no matter where they are. These lawmakers need to stand up and help take care of our children and not expect divorced parents to accept less than they would for their own children.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

...you got so bashed for your concern about your child. Texas has a morals clause to protect children from this behavior. No overnight guests of the opposite sex, no sexual contact in front of the children. I personally couldn't care less about what my ex does or who he does it with, as I'm sure you don't either, but in front of a young child?? Why can't a parent who only sees their child on visitation want to spend their time that way? Something is wrong there. I get really tired of people not standing up for what is right when it comes to the children. Parents wouldn't send their kids to other people's homes who are not appropriate, why should we just lie down and take it from our ex-spouses? We have an obligation to the children to take care of them, no matter where they are. These lawmakers need to stand up and help take care of our children and not expect divorced parents to accept less than they would for their own children.

wonderful advice. Now, read to us what THIS POSTER'S custody and visitation order states?

 

[CJane]

These lawmakers need to stand up and help take care of our children and not expect divorced parents to accept less than they would for their own children.

So, what you're saying is that 1) the NCP should ALWAYS devote every second of visitation to their children, exclusive of all other relationships, but it's presumably ok for the CP to have other relationships because they spend more time with the kids anyway. And 2) There is zero chance of a child walking in on bio-mom and bio-dad having sex if the marriage remains intact. And 3) There should be laws governing kissing in front of children in our own homes.

Wow, I wanna live in your world.

 

[thetsgtswife]

Well I remember when I wanted to throw a fit becuase my ex had moved in with his new girlfriend and I went running to my attorney and she looked at me and said "does his bedroom have a door on it?" to which I replied yes of course and her reply to me was "get over it and grow up already".

Best advice she could have given me. She told me that as long as our son wasnt exposed to anything and as long as his dad had a door on his bedroom I would look like a fool to run to court over that not to mention that it would haunt me at some point that I demanded no overnights.

She was right all the way around. You CANNOT control what your ex does in his own time but you can teach your child to knock on doors.

TSGTSWIFE