What you really want to hear is. Your right.The hubby is a mean man that won't leave his home and kids ,pay all the bill his cranky wife socks up and refuses to give all assets to his queen. The very queen that decided to divorece him and HITHIN 3 mos?found a new sextoy.Was it really 3 mos later?????????even so,instead of finding new sex pleasure ,how about finding a marruage counsler.OH BUT ,I bet you saw it how many wanna be EX's see it(are you my ex who remarried and is getting divorced AGAIN?) the story is the same.I'll divorce HIM,get HIS pension,take HIS house,take HIS car,take HIS everything else .Not realizing its a we deal.You might get half of the assets.But the ASSumption you WILL be getting the kids,alimony ,etc is long over.YOU WILL be getting a FULLTIME J.O.B You are just as responsible to support YOUR children as your now husband.Start putting your applications in at Walmart or Mickey D's,the court will assess you child support at least at minimum wage.The house,YOU wont get it.You may think you are going to live there til your youngest child reaches 18.that was "once upon a time".can you pay a mortgage,?doubt it with no income.the tides have changed sweetie.Courts don't give the farm awauy anymore.Especially to wives whom have taken up with another "stud"when she is to be home tending to the family(*you dont work,that was your JOB).Ohio is right ,all the stuff you bitched about was in the hubby's home.unless you can prove he tied you up and beat the password out of ya.Ya got nothing.DO YOU KIDS a FAVOR.Pack up ,move in with the stud.They are only inthe way of what you want.Admit it.Leave the hubby alone,let the kids have a life they are accustomed to in their own home.Take a few bucks,get a trailer with studly and live happily ever after.In closng,ANYONE that reads your post,got your number.Your one of thousands . YOUR NOT UNIQUE