CourtClerk
Senior Member
Ld, you never heard me say anything like that. What I said was BOYS. NEED. THEIR. FATHERS. just like they NEED. THEIR. MOTHERS. My son has a male figure that he is CONSTANTLY involved with, 3 minutes from my house, on a regular basis. If in his senior year of high school, presumably months before he's supposed to turn into an ADULT, LISTEN to them. There very well may be a reason WHY he wants to go, and for HIM, you may want to consider. Let him choose? Hell no. However, weigh the options and make the choice yourself, the same way I would either choose or not choose to buy him the pair of shoes he absolutely loves and I absolutely HATE. No, as women we don't know how to be men. If the powers that be intended women to be able to raise children by themselves, we would be able to have them without male intervention at all. And note, I'm a mother of 2 boys, one of which I've already had to make that decision about. In that case, I said no. In my younger one's case, if he made that request, I'd think about it damn hard, but he'd probably go for a while. WHY???? Because it's not ABOUT ME, it's ABOUT HIM and I'm not so momcentric to think that although we don't get along, he can't do some male bonding and see him more than his football coach does.So now you have decided that teenagers SHOULD get to choose?...because that is basically what you are saying here.
I am really surprised to hear you state the opinion that a mother cannot successfully raise a son into manhood, considering that you are a mother of a son.
Stealth, albeit not a great relationship all the time, your kids HAD their father. What is so wrong with a child missing that part and wanting THAT TIME, that they had with their MOTHER, with their FATHER... you know, the other half of their DNA??????? Is it because he's a man that he doesn't get a hand in actively raising that that he's expected to pay for?
Starting over had it right
Kids don't decide, but there comes a time in their lives where if you've raised them to think independently......their opinions should carry some weight and you have to let them spread their wings a bit....
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