CJane
Senior Member
And that is exactly what is meant by passive agreement.Thank you so much for your reply.
When she was letting them see their dad less and less, the more he would push to see the kids, the less she would let them have them. They had said from the get-go that they didn't want to get into a messy custody thing, so he attempted to uphold that for as long as possible, but her control over the kids, and how she treats them, is getting unbearable.
He couldn't have prevented THAT anyway.He didn't want to prohibit them from moving, as he didn't want to control their lives or keep the new husband from being able to join the army and have income.
And that sucks.It's only in the past week that he has learned of her scheduling the surgery in the middle of the time he was supposed to have with them. He's realizing now that she is making all decisions for the kids independent of their father, and is now telling him what will and won't happen (regarding visitation, medical care, etc.).
It doesn't matter if he's listed as a legal guardian or not. State and Federal Law will back up his access to those records regardless. He simply needs to properly request them.As for the medical records, he has only had the surgeries for the past year, and none out on the west coast yet, so my fiance has been able to be present for those. (The doctor here in NC has taken care of everything up until this point, and is fully capable of continuing to.) He was told last week by his ex that she wouldn't give him any information regarding the doctor they were now seeing. He wasn't aware that he wasn't listed as a guardian (there or here) until he called this week trying to get information for the doctor he will now be seeing on the west coast.
Edit: He called the doctor in NC, trying to find out where the records had been transferred to, and found out he hadn't been listed as a legal guardian.
Again, passive agreement.
Honestly. Dad has NO SHOT at primary custody here. None.
What he SHOULD do is file to modify the visitation so that he can receive an enforceable visitation schedule with the kids that takes into account the distance they now live from each other.