And all the attachment disorder studies I've seen show that it is not the "environment " changing that causes attachment disorders, but a pattern of failure by the child's caregivers to consistantly meet the child's needs. In many cultures, extended family or even the whole village helps care for the children, and some peoples are nomadic, constantly changing "environments". What enhances bonding with the primary caregivers is the child learning their needs will be met. In other words, being comforted when they cry, being changed when wet, being fed when hungry. And learning to associate the faces and presence of that comfort with their parents.
As the parent of a post institutionalized child, I was on many web groups with parents of other PI kids working through real attachment disorders and therapies. These kids had RAD not because their environment changed, but because they had learned that nobody would care if they cried or were hungry. My kiddo didn't cry when hurt, she just picked herself up and kept going because she was used to nobody caring if she cried. The environment was consistent - that's not what causes RAD!
On the contrary, it is strongly shown that the child learning that the faces of their parents are there to rock them to sleep and comfort them in the night, and be the face they see to hold and change and feed them enhances the attachment process. I get really tired of seeing attachment disorder studies, most of which are based on our orphanage kids, being used to wrongly justify reducing the NCPs overnights. Having Dad also serve in the role of comforter, first face to see in the morning helps enhance their bonding and attachment.
I agree completely, nextwife.
I realize this thread is a bit stale, but there's a similar thread today and thus I just discovered this one.
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A principle tenet of attachment theory is that very young children are prone to form attachments with
familiar caregivers, not just one primary caregiver or even a primary caregiver "team" comprising only Mom and Dad. The quality of the attachment is directly proportional to the caregiver's sensitivity, responsiveness, and consistency in addressing the child's needs.
Furthermore, the findings of studies into infant attachment in separated and divorced families are frequently over-simplified and/or spun to suit a particular journalistic bias when distilled for public consumption. Consider this article, which the OP linked in the other thread:
Babies' Attachment to Parents Affected by Overnights
When I read it, I perceive a clear bias against overnight visitation for infants under any circumstance, despite one of the researchers being quoted as emphasizing that failure to
engage in co-parenting -- not differing environments, or frequency of transitions between environments -- is what makes such arrangements problematic. The researchers' conclusion is clearer when you read the original study, the abstract of which follows:
This study represents the first systematic investigation of the effects on infant attachment to mother and to father of the increasingly common practice of overnight visitation (time-sharing) with the father in separated and divorced families. There were 145 infants (ages 12 to 20 months) and their mothers (and 83 fathers*) who participated in the study. Parents completed questionnaires, were interviewed about their relationship with the baby, and were observed with their infants in the Strange Situation. Infants in separated/divorced families who had regular overnight visits with father (n = 44) were significantly less likely to be classified as secure and more likely to be classified as disorganized or unclassifiable in their attachment to mother than infants in a married comparison group (n = 52). Attachment classification to father was unrelated to visiting (time-sharing) arrangements, but infants were significantly more likely to be classified disorganized/unclassifiable with father in the separated/divorced groups (n = 39) than in dual-parent families (n = 44). Disorganized attachment to mother in the Overnight group was associated with maternal reports of low parent communication and high parent conflict, and with low maternal psychological protection of the infant, assessed from maternal interviews. Consistent with Bowlby's and Rutter's context-sensitive views of the effects of separation, the results suggest that repeated overnight separations from the primary caregiver are associated with disruption in mother-infant attachment when the conditions of visitation are poor, i.e. when parents are unable to provide adequate psychological support to the child.
*Did you notice that only 57% of the fathers participated , and that their involvement rated only parenthetical mention? Yeah, so did I.
As for this quote, which also garnered some comment in the other thread:
Because the successful attainment of these developmental tasks lays the foundation for secure and healthy children, parents should design a schedule that fits a child's needs at this stage. The best schedule, say the experts, is short but frequent time with the noncustodial parent: short because infants and toddlers can't maintain the image of their primary caretaker for long and frequent to enable them to bond with the noncustodial parent. Most psychologists agree there should be no overnight visitation for very young children.
There is no such consensus among psychologists who practice and research in this area.
BTW, this quote comes from "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Surviving Divorce", authored by two journalists and an attorney. I have not read the book, but since I'm no idiot and I'm not contemplating divorce, I think I'll look to other
authorities for advice on child rearing.
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