LdiJ
Senior Member
Because the court does not yet know that they are not her children. The court has no reason to believe that she lied about that until the mother proves it to the court by producing the birth certificates and custody paperwork.No its not that i'm assuming she did something wrong, I'm very familiar with moms who do not have primary custody of their children simply because they didnt want them to be uprooted from their familiar areas and felt dad was better as he was home. I know mom doesnt always have to be the bad guy to not have primary custody, in fact sometimes that even makes mom the better person. But I guess where Im having the confusion is what seems to be the amount of power the GF has. Why would she even be allowed to file an RO and have it include children that werent even hers? That could technically mean that any joe schmoe could do the same with my child? Call me suspicious, but I honestly get the overwhelming feeling that we arent being given the whole story here.
Who could have stopped the GF from filing the RO? Dad? Obviously he isn't going to do that. The court? The court won't know that she lied until the first hearing. Of course the GF has a lot of power. She lives with dad and the children and Dad is a wimp who lets her call the shots. If you haven't seen a lot of stepparents/new BUDs out there like that, then you run in sheltered circles.
There is nothing unusual about this story. We have heard the same story hundreds of times a year on these forums, by either fathers or mothers...and we hear dozen's of times a year about a stepparent/significant other who was stupid enough to do something as stupid as what this GF has done.