What is the name of your state? Louisiana
I'd love some help with a little dispute between my ex and I from you guys. We have 2 kids, ages 4 and 5. The oldest is in school, the 4 yr old is not.
Our order for visitation is as follows:
"The father will have visitation with the children two days a week, every other week while the children are in school. The father agrees to give the mother at least two days advanced notice of days he will be taking the children. In addition, the father may have one weekend a month with the children from Friday afternoon after school until Monday morning. Visitation may also be allowed at any other times at which the parties may agree."
I actually give him more than 2 days EOY and one weekend a month, its more like 1-2 days a WEEK. The reason there are no set days is b/c he never has the same days off every week so this allows for us to be flexible with his visitation, which I am normally quite fine with. My ex and I get along for the most part and I realize its important for my ex to be in my kids lives, and he didnt work about 1/2 of last year, which is why I've allowed him extra time with the kids.
ANYWAY, here is the issue I need opinions on.
He has a new job. Due to the nature of his work, his off days are *usually* weekdays or a Sunday, usually never Fridays or Saturdays.
Well, I get a call @ 7:45 telling me his "power went off in the middle of the night" and since they were already late (school starts @ 8:15, you are considered late @ 8:31, and he lives about 50 min away from the school, so if he had left then, my son wouldve been less than an hr late to school) would I mind if he just didnt bring them?
I said OF COURSE I minded, my son needed to go to school. He hemmed and hawed about it so I said "You know what, its unacceptable to me but you sound like you are going to do what you want to do anyway." and he said "Ok, I'll bring them to you tonight."
So, my son didnt go to school.
A one time occurance wouldnt be *that* big of a deal, usually, but this happens a lot, he is almost always late or doesnt go when he is with his father.
What I would *like* to do is this:
No overnights Sunday- Thursday. I will bring the kids to school, he can pick up our younger son after 9 am (the time I get back from dropping off our older son from school) and keep him all day, and then pick up our older son from school @ 3:15 pm, and keep him until about 7 pm, then he must return him.
I dont really love having to police him, but my son being late constantly or not getting there at all can not continue.
I just need to know if I can do this due to the wording of our court order. I have a feeling I may need to amend our paperwork (I did it the last time, we didnt use lawyers) or take this to court if he is completely unagreeable to this, which I have a feeling he may be.
Since we dont have set days or times (other than the one weekend a month part) I dont know if I will be in contempt or not if I tell him we're going to have to switch to no overnights on school nights.
Thoughts? Opinions? Comments? Suggestions? Help, please. Thanks in advance.
I'd love some help with a little dispute between my ex and I from you guys. We have 2 kids, ages 4 and 5. The oldest is in school, the 4 yr old is not.
Our order for visitation is as follows:
"The father will have visitation with the children two days a week, every other week while the children are in school. The father agrees to give the mother at least two days advanced notice of days he will be taking the children. In addition, the father may have one weekend a month with the children from Friday afternoon after school until Monday morning. Visitation may also be allowed at any other times at which the parties may agree."
I actually give him more than 2 days EOY and one weekend a month, its more like 1-2 days a WEEK. The reason there are no set days is b/c he never has the same days off every week so this allows for us to be flexible with his visitation, which I am normally quite fine with. My ex and I get along for the most part and I realize its important for my ex to be in my kids lives, and he didnt work about 1/2 of last year, which is why I've allowed him extra time with the kids.
ANYWAY, here is the issue I need opinions on.
He has a new job. Due to the nature of his work, his off days are *usually* weekdays or a Sunday, usually never Fridays or Saturdays.
Well, I get a call @ 7:45 telling me his "power went off in the middle of the night" and since they were already late (school starts @ 8:15, you are considered late @ 8:31, and he lives about 50 min away from the school, so if he had left then, my son wouldve been less than an hr late to school) would I mind if he just didnt bring them?
I said OF COURSE I minded, my son needed to go to school. He hemmed and hawed about it so I said "You know what, its unacceptable to me but you sound like you are going to do what you want to do anyway." and he said "Ok, I'll bring them to you tonight."
So, my son didnt go to school.
A one time occurance wouldnt be *that* big of a deal, usually, but this happens a lot, he is almost always late or doesnt go when he is with his father.
What I would *like* to do is this:
No overnights Sunday- Thursday. I will bring the kids to school, he can pick up our younger son after 9 am (the time I get back from dropping off our older son from school) and keep him all day, and then pick up our older son from school @ 3:15 pm, and keep him until about 7 pm, then he must return him.
I dont really love having to police him, but my son being late constantly or not getting there at all can not continue.
I just need to know if I can do this due to the wording of our court order. I have a feeling I may need to amend our paperwork (I did it the last time, we didnt use lawyers) or take this to court if he is completely unagreeable to this, which I have a feeling he may be.
Since we dont have set days or times (other than the one weekend a month part) I dont know if I will be in contempt or not if I tell him we're going to have to switch to no overnights on school nights.
Thoughts? Opinions? Comments? Suggestions? Help, please. Thanks in advance.