Is there a current support order? If not, then the other parent isn't obligated to give you a penny.clf495 said:my son is 13 mnths old and father has seen him 2-3 times. we live in different states about 8 hours drive. i have offered to give him money to come visit so he can get to know son and eventually keep overnight, but he has not taken me up on my offer. he doesn't call or provide $ and is not on bc but after dna test signed acknowledgement. the father lives in ms (where son born) and has filed in court for custody but i think that was because he wanted to see him and thought i wouldnt allow. it has been almost a year since filed in court, and his atty retired and he has yet to find another.
clf495 said:my son is 13 mnths old and father has seen him 2-3 times. we live in different states about 8 hours drive. i have offered to give him money to come visit so he can get to know son and eventually keep overnight, but he has not taken me up on my offer. he doesn't call or provide $ and is not on bc but after dna test signed acknowledgement. the father lives in ms (where son born) and has filed in court for custody but i think that was because he wanted to see him and thought i wouldnt allow. it has been almost a year since filed in court, and his atty retired and he has yet to find another.
Moreso than 'tradition' it allows the family name/lineage to continue on through the generations. Since a woman's name is/was typically changed by marriage, while a man's remained the same- passing it onto the children (male children specifically) would guarantee that the family name would 'live on'.clf495 said:What is the name of your state?mo
i dont get why a child is usually given paternal parents surname. because of "tradition"?it doesn't make since. can someone explain the theory on this
Why not contact Dad and make an agreement for visitation and child support? If you both agree, it will save everyone time and money- especially the time he's not spending with the child.clf495 said:my son is 13 mnths old and father has seen him 2-3 times. we live in different states about 8 hours drive. i have offered to give him money to come visit so he can get to know son and eventually keep overnight, but he has not taken me up on my offer. he doesn't call or provide $ and is not on bc but after dna test signed acknowledgement. the father lives in ms (where son born) and has filed in court for custody but i think that was because he wanted to see him and thought i wouldnt allow. it has been almost a year since filed in court, and his atty retired and he has yet to find another.
If that is your reason for wanting him to have your name...then why did you bother to ask why people want to preserve their paternal namesakes? (When, here YOU are wanting to do the same thing!)clf495 said:It's not about custody and visitation. What I am concerned with is the name, I want my surname used. Now, a little more of the story...My father was in a car crash April 2 2005 with a tractor trailer and, unfortunately, died as a result of this collision. I am an only child and the last, except for my son. Days before the crash my dad and i spoke about my son being able to carry on our name. so it is VERY important to me to not change my sons name. The father has siblings, and they have children so their name will carry on. But if my surname is removed from my son, then my family name will not go further. If this does go to court, it will all depend prodominantly on the opinion of 1 judge based on their beliefs.