I have no clue what some think one should do in a case where there is no money to spend even a couple bucks each week to keep buying clothes that the other parent IS JUST GOING TO STEAL. It's the most childish behavior by that parent, cause the only one that harms is THE CHILD.And what is mom supposed to do if she is living paycheck to paycheck and cannot replace the clothing that dad never returns? I don't remember which forum it was on, (but I think it was this one) about 5 or 6 years ago and she was about to send her children to dad's for an extended visit and she did not know what to do about clothing. Every time the children went to dad's, dad's mother kept their clothing and this time the children only had about a week's worth of clothing as it was, and if she sent it all, she was going to have virtually nothing for them, and absolutely no money to purchase any more until a couple of weeks after they returned from dad's.
Several people here gave her the same kind of responses that we are seeing on this thread, and she eventually felt like she HAD to send the clothing...and once again, the clothing was kept. This put her in a very serious world of hurt financially...and if I remember dad wasn't paying his child support either.
Yes, its about our children and doing what is best for them. However, its sure not in any child's best interest to have to go to school for two weeks wearing the same outfit, because one of their parents was too much of a jerk to send their clothing back with them.
Sometimes it's not in the best interest of the child, to roll over and take the crap. When the kid grows up, you better prepare to answer why you did that, and why you didn't stop the behavior, and why you let the kid suffer. Both parents get the blame. Sometimes when you keep rolling over, keep taking that high road, the games keep on coming, and they got away with it, so they add in more games, and more games. Yep the child is real happy when they grow up that you just sat around and took that, and they suffered for it.