Replys back to my buddies:
Hey my friends! Thanks for all of the feedback. I will respond to each of you.
To GA; I don't understand either why his lawyer told him to wait. Because my husband has already established a relationship with the child.
My husband wants joint custody of 50/50. I told him that she would fight him for it, & I thought maybe he would get another percentage. His is a fit parent, so I don't know if I told him correctly.
To NJ; She took him to court in March. He asked the judge how was he sopose to see the child, & the judge told him that they had programs to help him see the child. Because child support & visitation was seperate. But they said if the Ex still did'nt act right, he had to go a step further for joint custody, & he said he would. So he does'nt have a court order for visitation, only for court ordered child support.
They a DNA test done 2 years ago. He wanted the last name changed then, but the Ex refused, & been making up excuses "since" then why not to change it. Like because of school & all. She really has NO legitimate reason why "not" to change the name, except to be spiteful of my husband, because she knows how bad he wants this.
To RM; Thank-you for telling me that my husband "can" change her last name without her mom having anything to do with it. Would the Ex have to sign something?
And yes, you're right! The court dupport "was" done through CSE, so no that issue was'nt address about custody/visitation. Can you answer "why" it was'nt addressed? How is yours set up for visitation, or custody?
My husband & I were married 8 years ago. we dated 2 years prior to that. The Ex got pregnant before we met. She put the responsibility on her current boyfriend. Then they started having an affair during our marriage about 3 years ago. then they went & got DNA done 2 years ago to confirm what she was trying to tell my husband. Then the affair stopped 1 year ago & my husband gave his life to GOD & made a 100 degree change around. So also 1 year ago she got pregnant for her boyfriend & he has been telling the EX not to let my husband see his daughter, & that he would take care of her. So see, the Ex was lieing to everyone until the child turned almost 9 years old. He never had proof that the child "was" his because someone else is on the birth certificate, & she STILL has THAT other guys last name too! So when they were having the affair, oh she was trying to get all kinds of proof to show my husband that the girl was his. Now that they are NOT together & she & her fi'ance have a son together & they are a live-in family now, she wants my husband "money", but she refuses my husband to see her.{ We also have 2 daughters together} My husband has tried to see & call the child, but the Ex has changed her number to unlisted. So since him & the Ex "HATE" eachother, he tried to go through the Ex mother & father. But they refuse to let him "call & see" her too!!! They say the child either is not there, or sleep, or busy, or doing homework, etc. They say they gave the child the letters he's sent, & gave her our phone number, & gave her all those endless phone messages. But she never calls, so we think they have not told or gave her anything. So he has made MANY efforts, but they were useless. NONE of her family members want my husband to have NOTHING to do with the child. We also think the mother & her fi'ance has "brain-washed" the childs mind to hate my husband & not to call, write, nor see or want to visit him, nor see her sisters. So we know she's going to fight this 50/50 joint custody. He wants 50/50 of EVERY!!!!!!! I guess that means JOINT legal/physical custody.
I need all of you to shed some light on my situation. It's a stressful time in our home because he won't get to see her for Thanksgiving. The lawyer said he probaly can have us in court by early December. A temporary custody would be $250.00 more. And he's already paid $185.00. Please help ya'll!!