oliveoyl79
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? South Carolina
I will do my best to keep this as brief as possible.
My husband and I went through an adoption facilitation agency based in California to be matched with a birthmother for the purpose of adoption. We clearly stated to them what kind of child would be the best fit for our family, verbally and in writing. We were matched with a 17 year old birthmother for an open adoption, who gave birth to a healthy boy. At birth, it was too soon to tell exactly what his ethnicity was, but now, as the baby gets older, (he's ten weeks now) it is very, very obvious that the birthmother lied to us about the baby's father's race on her application, and also lied to our attorney on the legal documents regarding paternity. The match was made based on the false information she provided. Right now, we are thinking about what is best for the baby and our family, and the plan is to finalize the adoption sometime over the next two months. I don't think we will ever hear from the birthmother again. However, we have no medical history on the baby's father, and I don't want him having psychological issues when he gets older about not knowing who hs father is. What should we do? The word "perjury" keeps coming to mind. Can this create problems with finalization? This situation has changed my mind about the merits of open adoption. The adoptive parents seem to have few rights.
ThanksWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
I will do my best to keep this as brief as possible.
My husband and I went through an adoption facilitation agency based in California to be matched with a birthmother for the purpose of adoption. We clearly stated to them what kind of child would be the best fit for our family, verbally and in writing. We were matched with a 17 year old birthmother for an open adoption, who gave birth to a healthy boy. At birth, it was too soon to tell exactly what his ethnicity was, but now, as the baby gets older, (he's ten weeks now) it is very, very obvious that the birthmother lied to us about the baby's father's race on her application, and also lied to our attorney on the legal documents regarding paternity. The match was made based on the false information she provided. Right now, we are thinking about what is best for the baby and our family, and the plan is to finalize the adoption sometime over the next two months. I don't think we will ever hear from the birthmother again. However, we have no medical history on the baby's father, and I don't want him having psychological issues when he gets older about not knowing who hs father is. What should we do? The word "perjury" keeps coming to mind. Can this create problems with finalization? This situation has changed my mind about the merits of open adoption. The adoptive parents seem to have few rights.
ThanksWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?