Pregnant, seeking full custody, no child support

[Proserpina]

You gave her the impression that dad could show up 10 years down the road and take primary custody away from her...or that is at least how it read. Even in Washington state a judge is not going to disrupt a child's life like that without serious cause...because that obviously would not be in the best interest of the child.

There doesn't need to be a finding of the primary caregiver being unfit during an initial custody determination. Even after 10 years.

Is it likely? Probably not. But is it possible? Yes, absolutely. Even when both parents are fit. I still find your statement bizarre, but that's just me.

 

[LdiJ]

Are you sure? If you are ...How?

And the child discussed in this thread is not 10. 'jus sayin'

Obviously the child is not 10 because the child is not even born yet.

However I was responding to something specifically said by Pro. The judge still has to make a best interests decision and if mom is fit, and dad is a total stranger to the child, a judge would be hard pressed to justify a best interest's decision that awards primary custody to dad. It doesn't matter what the climate is in the courts.

It would be exactly the same if mom scampered after giving birth and the child lived with dad for a significant period of time. A judge would also be hard pressed to justify a best interests decision that included giving primary custody to mom, again no matter what the climate is in the courts.

 

[Just Blue]

Obviously the child is not 10 because the child is not even born yet.

However I was responding to something specifically said by Pro. The judge still has to make a best interests decision and if mom is fit, and dad is a total stranger to the child, a judge would be hard pressed to justify a best interest's decision that awards primary custody to dad. It doesn't matter what the climate is in the courts.

It would be exactly the same if mom scampered after giving birth and the child lived with dad for a significant period of time. A judge would also be hard pressed to justify a best interests decision that included giving primary custody to mom, again no matter what the climate is in the courts.

No...The child is not born and therefor they (Court) can not determine best interest.

 

[Silverplum]

Please, please contact an attorney right away. It is a brutal and expensive process so the more you strategize in advance, the better. Be careful of anything you put in writing and also make sure you keep all correspondence from him, especially any types of threats. Also assume he is recording conversations.

If you actually go to trial, judges place a great deal of weight on communication as this can cause significant issues for children. He will still get visitation in almost any circumstance, so be prepared for that.

Good luck and just be the best mom you can!! Focus on what you can control.

Clearly, all of the people who answered a few weeks ago missed something that only this new poster could provide.