ResponsibleOne said:
Man, it is funny how this board and others are put out there to try to help people but "some" just turn it into an opportunity to be harsh/rude and down right mean. That saddens me.
One senior member wrote: "We don't know the accuracy of this report or the circumstances, we are presented with an inflammatory report by a biased and motivated party with an agenda"
Inflammatory.....................the report was not inflammatory, it is what my child has told me and what my child has told his counselor. Am I a motivated party............yes, I am motivated to continue to try to protect my child as I have done. In addition, I might add I have done alone for the past ten years, dad just reappeared in the last year.
You are right you do not know my circumstances, you do not know the full story, you do not know why I was against this and against that, but you continue to make assumptions, you seem extremely angry...............how is this helpful to me or anyone else reading this post hoping to possibly make better decisions or do the right thing?
I just wanted some suggestions of how to better handle the situation, maybe some other outlooks. For those who replied by giving advice based upon their experience thank you, I was just looking for other points of view and help. I have never said I was perfect in fact, I know that I am not; I am just trying to do my best in this situation. I take great offense to the attack "biased and motivated party with an agenda". Although I know you could probably care less. I just do not believe your comments are necessary or helpful at times. But hey, I was just a person looking to you for help.
We have the story that you told.
ResponsibleOne
Junior Member Join Date: May 2005
Posts: 14
Visitation Rights, what should I do when I go to court?
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What is the name of your state? Arizona
Hi everyone, I am looking for some advise on how to best handle this situation. My ex moved back in the state from being gone for five years (he has now been here a year), I currently have sole custody. He has visitation every other weekend and every Wed night. currently & he is requesting more time. He has included our 11 year old in adult/court matters, at times I feel like I am fighting not only my ex but my son as well, my son has become very difficult over the last year.
The last time we saw the judge I explained all of this and he recommended that we see a court appointed family councilor to assist him in the decision to be made. The councilor recommended that the dad only be allowed to keep the current visitation schedule with additional visitation time after school on Monday's until 7pm. She also recommended based on her talking with my ex, me and my son that I maintain sole custody. After councilors report came out ex went and got an attorney (I have always had one). Next court date is in June to hear what judge thinks of all of the recommendations from councilors and such.
Now the ex is asking that my son not be allowed to go to daycare or summer camp while I am at work. The ex works from home and only makes about $9 an hour, I am currently responsible for 85% of Childs cost due to the % of income.
My son has been labeled ADHD and has many social issues that have been well documented. I think it is very important that my son continue to interact with other children his age, but ex and his attorney is saying that I am being difficult and manipulative and trying to keep him away from his child. I have no problem with my son going to his dads on "his" dads visitation days, but would prefer on the days that are during my time he be is some type of structured environment. How do I fight this? Am I fighting a losing battle? I do not know what to do or how to fight it? I kinda feel as though my attorney is not behind me in this either.
Everytime I do not agree with the ex/and his attorney they say I am trying to keep him away from his child, and they threaten with more court. I do not get involved with what he does during his scheduled visitation time but he continues to do so on my time, and when he does not get his way he involves the child. And the child usually sides with him. I do not know what to do.