Legal Seperation for School

[mb94]

Because there is a limited amount of money out there and if you apply for it via fraud (splitting up from your husband in name only) that means that someone who meets the needs honestly may not get that money. Contrary to popular opinion you don't have any right to a college education and, honestly, you don't need one to get ahead. There are a lot of college graduates working at the mall because a degree is no promise of success in the future. I went to law school with a guy who could never pass the Bar and now works full time delivering Pizza's. See how much education has helped him out!

There are a lot of better ways to reach your goal (helping your family) then defrauding the government. Look at taking classes at a community college where the tuition is usually quite reasonable and the credits are transferable to another school down the line. Get an entry level job with a company that pays for employees to take college courses after they've worked a certain amount of time. Or just get a job and save up that money until you have enough for school. The fact that you don't understand why what you are suggesting is WRONG is very sad. It smacks of entitlement. Why should my tax money go to send you to school. And "because other people get help for college" isn't an acceptable answer. "Because other people get to" stops being an excuse when you are 8 years old.

 

[anjel]

Hopefully you will insist that your daughters/sons make sure they and their future spouses place completing their education BEFORE marriage and kids. It is absolutely essential that women understand it is no less important for them to have a sustainable career than it is for any man - before they begin and continue making babies.

You're right. That's my own fault for marrying a man who already had a son. It was an instant family. Thanks for the advice.

 

[Ohiogal]

OK... if you're going to spit on me for asking that question, are you going to throw stones for me asking this???

But honestly, what is the difference between a legal seperation and a divorce, then? I guess I don't understand.

I thought if I moved into the district to attend college it would be at a cheaper rate. If I have to live apart from him that would be a seperation, right? What's the difference? I can't move my whole family.

Separation is used for many reasons when a marriage is dead but people don't want to divorce.
What you want do is why there are loans available. You can also qualify for student loans.

 

[anjel]

Because there is a limited amount of money out there and if you apply for it via fraud (splitting up from your husband in name only) that means that someone who meets the needs honestly may not get that money. Contrary to popular opinion you don't have any right to a college education and, honestly, you don't need one to get ahead. There are a lot of college graduates working at the mall because a degree is no promise of success in the future. I went to law school with a guy who could never pass the Bar and now works full time delivering Pizza's. See how much education has helped him out!

There are a lot of better ways to reach your goal (helping your family) then defrauding the government. Look at taking classes at a community college where the tuition is usually quite reasonable and the credits are transferable to another school down the line. Get an entry level job with a company that pays for employees to take college courses after they've worked a certain amount of time. Or just get a job and save up that money until you have enough for school. The fact that you don't understand why what you are suggesting is WRONG is very sad. It smacks of entitlement. Why should my tax money go to send you to school. And "because other people get help for college" isn't an acceptable answer. "Because other people get to" stops being an excuse when you are 8 years old.

You're totally right. I agree with you 100%. I guess that I was just thinking that a legal seperation was just like legally seperating your expenses/properties? Like filing seperate on an income tax statement or something? I didn't know if that I didn't qualify since we file everything jointly, etc...... do you understand what I'm trying to say?
I guess I don't understand the concept of legal seperation??? How is that different than divorce, then?

 

[Ohiogal]

You're totally right. I agree with you 100%. I guess that I was just thinking that a legal seperation was just like legally seperating your expenses/properties? Like filing seperate on an income tax statement or something? I didn't know if that I didn't qualify since we file everything jointly, etc...... do you understand what I'm trying to say?
I guess I don't understand the concept of legal seperation??? How is that different than divorce, then?

I understand what you are trying to say but that is NOT a legal separation. It does separate all expenses and property but it does so when the marriage is dead and the individuals do not want a divorce for medical or other reasons. Your marriage is not dead. nor are your dreams for school. There are a variety of different schools you can attend (community colleges, so on and so forth). You can work part time and attend college part time and get a degree. There are methods of making this happen WITHOUT engaging in fraud.

 

[anjel]

I understand what you are trying to say but that is NOT a legal separation. It does separate all expenses and property but it does so when the marriage is dead and the individuals do not want a divorce for medical or other reasons. .

THANK YOU!!

 

[fairisfair]

You're right. That's my own fault for marrying a man who already had a son. It was an instant family. Thanks for the advice.

Oh, our mistake, we thought you said you had 4 children.

 

[anjel]

Oh, our mistake, we thought you said you had 4 children.

No problem. I do have 4 children. In the first post I told you that 3 of them are our children together and I also have a stepson who we have full custody of.

 

[nextwife]

You're right. That's my own fault for marrying a man who already had a son. It was an instant family. Thanks for the advice.

We have 3 children together and we also have custody of his son from a previous relationship.

Three children do not just happen instantly.

 

[anjel]

Three children do not just happen instantly.

Well... they do if they're triplets! LMAO! Which they aren't ... so you're right.
What I was trying to say was that I became a mom the moment I became married.

 

[Silverplum]

So did I. Point being, I did not marry or bring children into the world or take responsibility for someone else's kid/s until *I* was fully prepared to do so. Educationally, professionally, emotionally.

Now you think that *I* and many others should help you catch up.

Maybe if you catch me up on "Days of Our Lives." That oughta be worth it.

Well... they do if they're triplets! LMAO! Which they aren't ... so you're right.
What I was trying to say was that I became a mom the moment I became married.

 

[demartian]

Choices

We all make our own choices and go on with them.

I was always under the assumption that as soon as you lived together again (which would occur for holidays I assume) for any amount of time, had relations, then the legal separation was no longer a separation either.

 

[anjel]

So did I. Point being, I did not marry or bring children into the world or take responsibility for someone else's kid/s until *I* was fully prepared to do so. Educationally, professionally, emotionally.

Now you think that *I* and many others should help you catch up.

Maybe if you catch me up on "Days of Our Lives." That oughta be worth it.

I was prepared to take care of him. And I have taken care of him and all of my children. Now that they are in school I would like to go back.

I don't think you should help me catch up.... I made a mistake. I've already admitted it. I didn't understand the meaning of "legally seperated" which is why I came here to ask. And now I know and I understand.

I'll catch you up on "Days of Our Lives" if you send me some college money. I promise. LMAO!

 

[anjel]

I was always under the assumption that as soon as you lived together again (which would occur for holidays I assume) for any amount of time, had relations, then the legal separation was no longer a separation either.

Good point.

 

[anjel]

...had relations, ....

In all honesty, I would enjoy having a legal reason to get out of that .. ..