If you really want help, TCool, you should keep this in mind.
I'm a long-time lurker, simply because I'm fascinated by anything to do with the law. I've learned a LOT just by hanging out here and reading, and I've had to pick a lot of the valuable information I've gotten out of the middle of posts that were snotty, rude, and arrogant, or the responder was just frustrated, annoyed, fed-up, or tired of trying to get through some stubborn idiot's thick skull.
Some of these people have been here for years, trying to help posters who often just throw it back in their faces and tell them they don't know what they're talking about. Sometimes people don't bother to do the most basic research first, or even browse this site to see if their question has already been addressed, which can result in five versions of "Yes, I know I work in an at-will state, but does that really apply to me??" all on the same page. And then there are the ignorant wanna-bes who roam from post to post, nipping at everyone's heels, creating confusion and giving sometimes dangerously bad "advice", obliging the members who know what they're talking about to spend even more time trying to clarify and correct the misinformation.
If anyone can do that day after day for years and not lose patience or have a certain amount of contempt for what they expect will be just another typical poster, they're certainly a better person than I. But that's what these guys do, and they keep doing it in spite of the crap they have to put up with.
You're not here to make friends, you're here for advice, and in the midst of anything you might find offensive, you're actually getting very good advice. Take what you need and leave the rest behind. You're wasting your time taking exception to what you perceive as rudeness, and you shouldn't let that interfere with your acceptance of what is also some very valuable information.
If you want an attorney to smile, shake your hand, offer you coffee, and tell you you're wrong in a nice, pleasant voice, go to his office and pay for his services. If you want legal help without spending money, you can come here and get excellent free advice, but they're probably going to extract "payment" by allowing themselves the freedom to say exactly what they think. If the advice helps you get your daughter, that sounds like a bargain to me.
Instead of spending time here bickering back and forth, take the advice you've been given and go do what you have to do.
). Also, I said in another post that I see where they get the attitude from. I can understand how you would get frustrated with people easily when you have people like the one who posted yesterday that wanted to take her child away from the father simply because it was more convienant for her. And, I do know they are giving good advice, I stated that a few times already. So, no fears, I know I'm getting good advice and it doesn't bother me that some people are a little rude.