GAMOMtired
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? GA
My ex-husband moved to Louisiana about 600 miles away 4 months after our divorce when our daughter was 5. She has had very little visitation with him b/c he says he can't afford to travel here to pick her up. Originally he said he would try to see her once a month since he works for an oil company in the Gulf and works one week on and one week off. This has not happened. We divorced b/c he was having an affair with a woman in his home town in LA. When our papers were drawn up he knew he was going to move but he did not tell me or make any kind of visitation arrangements in case he did move. She has been to see him about 4 times total since the move, two seperate weeks last summer and then she went for 2 consecutive weeks last Thanksgiving, I allowed the extra time since she was in Kindergarten and the school approved it. He did not get her for Christmas b/c his work schedule conflicted with his visitation time. He only calls about once every 2 to 3 weeks sometimes not even that much. He married the woman he had the affair with about a month ago, my child has been around her about 3 times since he left us. She is currently with her father in Louisiana for 2 weeks, originally he told me he had to work one of those weeks and I told him to just keep her for the week he was off because she is not very familiar with his new wife. He said no, b/c he would have to make seperate trips to see her that way. Then he told me he had made arrangements to be off. Of course he called me last week and said he had called in to work for a week and my little girl would be staying with his wife till he got back other than 2 days which she spent with his parents. I know I have rambled but my question is, Do I have let her stay with someone she hardly knows (even though she's his wife) for that long while he is in the Gulf of Mexico on a barge(unaccessible if she needed him)? Do I have any say so in this at all? I have encouraged more visitation and more phone calls but he says he is doing all he can afford to do. He said she could call him sometimes, she's 6. I do ask her if she wants to call him and occasionally she does. I called her last night and she cried and said she was ready to come home, I encouraged her to stay and told her it was just 4 more days. His new wife blamed me for calling and making her upset. I want to talk to my child but I don't want to make her even more homesick. They don't want me to call b/c they say it makes her upset. I'm frustrated and don't know what to do.
My ex-husband moved to Louisiana about 600 miles away 4 months after our divorce when our daughter was 5. She has had very little visitation with him b/c he says he can't afford to travel here to pick her up. Originally he said he would try to see her once a month since he works for an oil company in the Gulf and works one week on and one week off. This has not happened. We divorced b/c he was having an affair with a woman in his home town in LA. When our papers were drawn up he knew he was going to move but he did not tell me or make any kind of visitation arrangements in case he did move. She has been to see him about 4 times total since the move, two seperate weeks last summer and then she went for 2 consecutive weeks last Thanksgiving, I allowed the extra time since she was in Kindergarten and the school approved it. He did not get her for Christmas b/c his work schedule conflicted with his visitation time. He only calls about once every 2 to 3 weeks sometimes not even that much. He married the woman he had the affair with about a month ago, my child has been around her about 3 times since he left us. She is currently with her father in Louisiana for 2 weeks, originally he told me he had to work one of those weeks and I told him to just keep her for the week he was off because she is not very familiar with his new wife. He said no, b/c he would have to make seperate trips to see her that way. Then he told me he had made arrangements to be off. Of course he called me last week and said he had called in to work for a week and my little girl would be staying with his wife till he got back other than 2 days which she spent with his parents. I know I have rambled but my question is, Do I have let her stay with someone she hardly knows (even though she's his wife) for that long while he is in the Gulf of Mexico on a barge(unaccessible if she needed him)? Do I have any say so in this at all? I have encouraged more visitation and more phone calls but he says he is doing all he can afford to do. He said she could call him sometimes, she's 6. I do ask her if she wants to call him and occasionally she does. I called her last night and she cried and said she was ready to come home, I encouraged her to stay and told her it was just 4 more days. His new wife blamed me for calling and making her upset. I want to talk to my child but I don't want to make her even more homesick. They don't want me to call b/c they say it makes her upset. I'm frustrated and don't know what to do.
. It seems that for the most part dad is trying to spend time with his daughter as much as possible, but he does have to work to support his family and the daughter that you share. Encourage your daughter to stay, have fun and you'll see her in a few short days. I know its hard to share a child with a step-parent, but if she's going to be around the step-mother...don't you want them to establish a healthy relationship? In the end, I think that you will be happy, and your child will be too.