I would be happy to have picked my child up if he would have let me know before he left to go to work, he called me after the fact and told me where she would be staying during that time. I also asked him in the very beginning to let her stay only 1 week since he would be working and he would not agree to that. As for the power issue, when we were married he was never at home(hunting and camping) and I had all the power and RESPONSIBILITY, familiar with that word, he wasn't. That's why we are divorced.
She hardly knows her grandparents, they have not seen or called her since she last visited in November. Since the divorce they have never called her personally. In the years of her life while we were married they visited us twice in 4 years, we went there twice a year or more if possible.
~Well it sounds like 2 days with them is a start to getting to know them Another relationship you should encourage.
I also helped raise his son from his first marriage who lived with us for 7 years till his father and I divorced, he also left him in Georgia 1 week after he graduated from high school, because he wanted to stay here and go to college. it's hard to forget something that effects your child like a divorce. As far as I know you never get over a divorce when children are involved.