Furious!!!!!!!!!!!!

[faithnlve]

What is the name of your state? vt I AM SO MAD! My ex has custody of our son. I have generous visitation time. He is autistic. I recently found out that my son is on a medication to help him focus and be calm. I found out he was on this medication through our last IEP meeting. What upset me the most is that my ex does NOT send my son's medication to my home when he is with me, and never told me about it. What are my options? I have told him I want the meds sent here too, and he still has not. I am furious since my sons behaviour is more aggressive and less focused when off his meds. Can I get my own prescription for him while he is with me? thanks Faith

 

[GrowUp!]

The medication should be sent with the child, along with instructions (which should be on the bottle anyway). Dad should also be telling you the last time the child took the medication. Unless your order states differently.

 

[faithnlve]

i agree. And I have told him to send it. He has not. So now what?

 

[GrowUp!]

i agree. And I have told him to send it. He has not. So now what?

Does your order state anything differently about medication, that you are to provide your own for the child, etc.??

 

[faithnlve]

NO, our order only states that I am allowed all records, medical, educational and so on. I am involved in his school meetings, IEP's, and have him 4 days every other week, plus every wednesday. My ex and I do not get along. He treats me like a second class parent, and never keeps me up to date on changes he makes. I have to find out for myself. It was my sons behavorial specialist who told me about the medication during a meeting. I was dumbfounded, since I never knew my son was on any meds whatsoever. Now I wonder what other meds he has had him on without notifying me. Faith

 

[faithnlve]

By the way the med is concerta. Is this something he can go without on days with me? Or is this medication suppose to be daily. That is my concern. Thanks Faith

 

[GrowUp!]

Write him one more letter and tell him that if he does not send the medication with the child for the next parenting time with you, along with when child last received medication and all medical documents that are associated with this medication, you will file a show cause for contempt with the court. Which you CAN do in this instance.
In this letter, also indicate that you have asked him this on numerous occasions and include the dates.

 

[faithnlve]

Just so I know. How would this be a cause for contempt? I feel as though its child negligence. If I have to file for a contempt in court, what would the contempt be? Thanks again. Faith

 

[stealth2]

Well, you could ALSO call his doctor and ask for a prescription for you to fill for when he's with you. And I have to marvel that you're apparently not in touch with his doctor, since you didn't know he's being medicated. It's not all that hard to get that info.

 

[SingleMom67]

I agree with Stealth. You need to be in contact with this child's doctors. I don't think he should be missing the medication. Concerta is a drug that isn't effective unless it's taken consistently and daily.

 

[Zephyr]

faith you have a pm

 

[CJane]

Well, you could ALSO call his doctor and ask for a prescription for you to fill for when he's with you. And I have to marvel that you're apparently not in touch with his doctor, since you didn't know he's being medicated. It's not all that hard to get that info.

The biggest issue with attempting to fill a prescription for use at her house is that a lot of times an insurance company will only pay for one prescription in a certain time frame. I know that my kids can't have a bottle of their nasal spray for my house and one for their dad's house unless we get samples from the doc because the insurance will only pay for 30 doses (one bottle) every 30 days.

 

[LdiJ]

The biggest issue with attempting to fill a prescription for use at her house is that a lot of times an insurance company will only pay for one prescription in a certain time frame. I know that my kids can't have a bottle of their nasal spray for my house and one for their dad's house unless we get samples from the doc because the insurance will only pay for 30 doses (one bottle) every 30 days.

I also think that Concerta is one of those medications that a pharmacy can't dispense more than a thirty day supply at a time, even if someone is paying for it out of pocket.

 

[stealth2]

You're right. So Faith shouldn't even bother to call the doctor and see what can be worked out. Now THAT makes a lot of sense.

And gee.... it's possible to go to a different pharmacy. Or call the insurance and see if they'll authorize payment for a smaller script. Or perhaps the doc will agree to write two scripts - with amounts that the insurance will still pay for, but allows Faith to have enough for him on her time.

No, instead let's sit with our thumb up our butt and complain about the ex. Sheesh. Mine is a pita, too - but at least I'm proactive about things.

 

[haiku]

with certain ritilin type drugs the onyl thing a pharmacy can do is give TWO labeled bottles so the pill themselves can be split into two dosage bottles. (common when you need to send pills to school)