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faithnlve

Member
What is the name of your state? Vt.. Would these actions be considered parental alienation and be grounds for a change in PR & R?

1. Custodial parent never informs other parent of any medical, educational changes or needs of child. Example: child has IEP for two years and custodial parent "never" informed other parent.

2. Stepparent has signed all school records for last 4 years as guardian/mother and that is why other parent never received copies of school reports. Even when calling school and cp.

3. Stepmom wants my child to call her "mom", and has teachers believing her to be the "mom".

4. Custodial parent tells non custodial parent that it is in the best interests of child to do sports even if on their time, and tells ncp that they are mistreating the child if does not let child go.

5. Informs ncp that it is up to the child if she/he wants to attend. If ncp says no then it is abusive to the child whom wants to play.

6. If ncp makes promise to take a child somewhere and cannot then cp screams at ncp in front of child that ncp lies to child all the time by breaking promises. (I did make a promise to take my child to 6 flags, when time came, ended up with another sick child could not go).

5. Custodial parent has changed the schedule so much to accomodate the childs sporting events, visitation is constantly interfered. Stepmom picks up for events if dad at work.

I feel alienated and want more involvement in my son's life. It is hard for me to go to his sporting events since I have an autistic son at home then, and 2 young children. My autistic son reacts poorly in crowds and loud noisy events. Do I have any chance to have some say in education and medical needs due to the above situations to win? And can I demand going back to what the court order is for visitation even though after 3 years I have lost time due to this? Thanks, Faith
 


CJane

Senior Member
Faith, you've been told that you have a decent shot at getting joint legal.

However, Dad is not going to be punished for not informing you of school/medical issues (most likely) since he has SOLE LEGAL at this point. It's unfortunate, but as NCP in that sort of situation, it's 100% up to YOU to get this information. While it's a pain in the ass, dad didn't technically do anything WRONG.

SMom DID do wrong in filling things out as guardian, and Dad can be held responsible for that.

Mostly, what you'll need is a change in circumstances. And in MY state, failure to communicate is enough of a change for courts to change SOLE to JOINT. I think, given your posts, you have that. I cannot tell you if that's enough in your state to get a slam dunk win.

The other things? That's just dad being an ass, and the courts aren't going to change him. YOU have to combat the damage on your time. It's all you can do.
 

faithnlve

Member
CJane**************Thanks again. I do understand what your saying when you mention dad having sole. I plan on filing on my own, and just let the courts decide. I am not going to get an attny as this is not complicated. I have records showing what the stepmom signed and how she signed. I also am going to ask dad to schedule our son's sporting events around my time. I hope the courts will see my side of things. But even if not, there will be a court record on file after the hearing. And my visitation even if changed fairly for our sons sake, will be set in stone. Thanks again Cjane.....Faith
 

moburkes

Senior Member
faith I have no idea why you continue to start new threads on the same subject, instead of just adding to your original threads.
 

LdiJ

Senior Member
CJane**************Thanks again. I do understand what your saying when you mention dad having sole. I plan on filing on my own, and just let the courts decide. I am not going to get an attny as this is not complicated. I have records showing what the stepmom signed and how she signed. I also am going to ask dad to schedule our son's sporting events around my time. I hope the courts will see my side of things. But even if not, there will be a court record on file after the hearing. And my visitation even if changed fairly for our sons sake, will be set in stone. Thanks again Cjane.....Faith
I also think that you may have a little confusion regarding what alienation actually is. Alienation is when the children form a negative opinion of you and do not want to be around you, based on things that the other parent has said and done. Dad and stepmom are not being very nice to you, but you haven't said anything to indicate that your children hate you and don't want to see you.
 

casa

Senior Member
What is the name of your state? Vt.. Would these actions be considered parental alienation and be grounds for a change in PR & R?

1. Custodial parent never informs other parent of any medical, educational changes or needs of child. Example: child has IEP for two years and custodial parent "never" informed other parent.

2. Stepparent has signed all school records for last 4 years as guardian/mother and that is why other parent never received copies of school reports. Even when calling school and cp.

3. Stepmom wants my child to call her "mom", and has teachers believing her to be the "mom".

4. Custodial parent tells non custodial parent that it is in the best interests of child to do sports even if on their time, and tells ncp that they are mistreating the child if does not let child go.

5. Informs ncp that it is up to the child if she/he wants to attend. If ncp says no then it is abusive to the child whom wants to play.

6. If ncp makes promise to take a child somewhere and cannot then cp screams at ncp in front of child that ncp lies to child all the time by breaking promises. (I did make a promise to take my child to 6 flags, when time came, ended up with another sick child could not go).

5. Custodial parent has changed the schedule so much to accomodate the childs sporting events, visitation is constantly interfered. Stepmom picks up for events if dad at work.

I feel alienated and want more involvement in my son's life. It is hard for me to go to his sporting events since I have an autistic son at home then, and 2 young children. My autistic son reacts poorly in crowds and loud noisy events. Do I have any chance to have some say in education and medical needs due to the above situations to win? And can I demand going back to what the court order is for visitation even though after 3 years I have lost time due to this? Thanks, Faith
Please take this advice: DO NOT even use the word PAS in court. It is NOT a legal definition and it is not recognized by experts as a legal diagnosis/syndrome.

Since Dad has SOLE legal he can make these decisions on his own...however, stepmom's interference will definately be frowned upon by a judge.

File, get JOINT Legal....then when these things happen you can pursue Contempt of the Court Order. file sooner, rather than later.
 

Silverplum

Senior Member
Please take this advice: DO NOT even use the word PAS in court. It is NOT a legal definition and it is not recognized by experts as a legal diagnosis/syndrome.

Since Dad has SOLE legal he can make these decisions on his own...however, stepmom's interference will definately be frowned upon by a judge.

File, get JOINT Legal....then when these things happen you can pursue Contempt of the Court Order. file sooner, rather than later.
I agree with Casa 100%!
(Which is rather smart of me, really...:D )
 

faithnlve

Member
Can I get joint legal in Vermont state if one parent does not agree then? I would love joint legal if I can ask for that.
 

LdiJ

Senior Member
Can I get joint legal in Vermont state if one parent does not agree then? I would love joint legal if I can ask for that.
Of course you can ask for joint legal. Whether or not a judge will agree that joint legal is appropriate depends on alot of different factors.

Joint legal is very "normal"....and is normally almost automatic. However it can also be denied if a judge feels that its impossible for parents to co-parent.
 

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