baseballfan19
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? North Carolina
Hello,
I'm new around here, but I hoped maybe I could get a question answered here.
I'm a father of two. Back in June, my wife left me to go live with another couple. She did not have a job, and the couple she went to live with was willing to support her, so she didn't need a job or a car, so I have sole custody of the kids (and the car), with her taking them every other weekend. She also sees them from time to time throughout the week. I have never once told her she could not see or speak to the kids, nor have I limited her to such a small amount of time, that was her idea.
Now things between her and the couple she moved in with have started to go south, and she is planning to move out and live temporarily with a friend till she can find a job and get a more permanent place of her own. Today she called me and asked me if she can use my car when she takes the kids, and use my truck (kids won't fit in the truck) while I have the kids. Then, she asks me if she can crash at my place during "her" weekends so that she won't have to take them to the new place she is living (she was taking them to the couple's house with her). With the implication that if I say no, that she will likely not be able to take the kids on her weekends, as she will be living in a one bedroom apartment.
I do not want to deny her access to my kids, but nor do I want her in my home anymore. My question is, if I tell her that I do not want her sleeping at my place on the weekends that she has agreed to take the kids, will she be able to turn this around when we go to court (we have not gotten that far yet, to this point, parental stuff has been fairly amicable) and say that I was denying her access to the kids? Or do I have the right to tell her that her weekends with the kids are her responsibility, and that she needs to figure out how to take care of them? How much help am I required to give the mother of my children?
Sorry for such a long post, and thanks in advance for any advice.
Baseballfan19
Hello,
I'm new around here, but I hoped maybe I could get a question answered here.
I'm a father of two. Back in June, my wife left me to go live with another couple. She did not have a job, and the couple she went to live with was willing to support her, so she didn't need a job or a car, so I have sole custody of the kids (and the car), with her taking them every other weekend. She also sees them from time to time throughout the week. I have never once told her she could not see or speak to the kids, nor have I limited her to such a small amount of time, that was her idea.
Now things between her and the couple she moved in with have started to go south, and she is planning to move out and live temporarily with a friend till she can find a job and get a more permanent place of her own. Today she called me and asked me if she can use my car when she takes the kids, and use my truck (kids won't fit in the truck) while I have the kids. Then, she asks me if she can crash at my place during "her" weekends so that she won't have to take them to the new place she is living (she was taking them to the couple's house with her). With the implication that if I say no, that she will likely not be able to take the kids on her weekends, as she will be living in a one bedroom apartment.
I do not want to deny her access to my kids, but nor do I want her in my home anymore. My question is, if I tell her that I do not want her sleeping at my place on the weekends that she has agreed to take the kids, will she be able to turn this around when we go to court (we have not gotten that far yet, to this point, parental stuff has been fairly amicable) and say that I was denying her access to the kids? Or do I have the right to tell her that her weekends with the kids are her responsibility, and that she needs to figure out how to take care of them? How much help am I required to give the mother of my children?
Sorry for such a long post, and thanks in advance for any advice.
Baseballfan19
