A lighthearted question

[CJane]

I found mine on the internet, the whole time we have been married I have not had to purchase feminine products, nor have I had to grocery shop, I tell him what I want he buys it, he gets the wrong brand, he goes back to the store for the right stuff....

I think is has more to do with the fact that I have very little impulse control while shopping LOL....so he shops, I don't drop 200 bucks every time I go to the store, the budget is safe, we don't fight, I still have what I want....everyone is happy

I found mine on the internet too. But since I also found Asshat online, I'm not gonna expound on the wonderfulness of internet dating.

Now I think I should send D'man after some product just to see what happens. He DID attempt to buy Twain some footy jammies at Walmart this weekend, but they didn't have any in his size.

 

[ezmarelda]

All right ladies, where do you find these lovely men who will shop for you? My BF claims that he likes shopping, yet I'm the one stuck going. I HHHHHAAAAATTTTTEEEEE shopping.

It was a twisted & warped road that led me to Mr Perfect.

 

[Zephyr]

Costco makes it easy. They only carry 2 types so you either use one of them or you don't. My husband is also not embarrassed to buy "feminine products" but then he had 3 daughters before we met, but I agree it can be daunting when there's a lot of choice and sometimes it matters a lot to the "wearer" which type they use ....

the first time hubby went to buy some, he called me from the fem prod aisle (no I hadn't sent the box top) and with a bad cell connection proceeded to yell into his phone "is there any particular scent you like?"**************and then he started reading the box labels (very loudly)......I'm sure the ladies in the department at the time had a good chuckle

 

[Rushia]

LOL. After I had Pipsqueak, I HAD to send out DH for the pads. He actually called me from his cell to ask me which ones I wanted! Can you imagine this nut, standing in front of all the pads and tampons, on the phone..."Honey, I can't figure out which ones you were talking about.."

 

[Ozark_Sophist]

My mother told me to remember girls can run faster with their skirt up than boys can run with their pants down. Never really figured out what she was trying to convey.

I would have a hard time letting a child online. Until 16 or so, I would want a key recorder on the computer so I would be able to access what was written, to whom, and any passwords the child creates/uses. Important to get passwords to check what's up if they use a computer at a friends or school. This even though I believe in civil liberties. Just way too many threats online.

 

[TheGeekess]

The Child has had her own computer since she was 7. She has her own AOL email address, but I've set limits on her AOL account. She uses another browser when she's home, but I have spoken with her about internet safety, etc. She follows the rules, or I block her from the network.

The one time she ran across an inappropriate site was at school. I didn't think too much about the site (having seen bits and pieces of it without reading the captions), until she sent my dad a link to show him a picture of a hamster hanging from a limb. Grandpa clicked next and about stroked. I checked the site a little more thoroughly, sent an email to the principal suggesting he get the site blocked from the school's network (which he did), and told her that the site was inappropriate. I don't think she's been back.

 

[Bloopy]

I dunno… Although this qualifies as “day to day parenting” I think it would be SMART to tell him.

With court dates still pending, and possibly a GAL still in tow, it’s a good time to set a precedent. You, the Queen of Communication, him well, a Stupidhead. The more calm and rational you are to his spazzing…


I’d rather test the water on this smaller issue then have to tell him when she’s 16. You’re gonna have to prep him someday.

 

[Suzz]

Open Communication

I guess this makes sense given all the contention they've had with shared custody, but there are plenty of times with parents living in the same home and not estranged at all that kids will discuss things with one parent and want them to keep it in confidence. That parent may tell the other parent, but they have to swear to keep it hush hush. Telling the other parent and having them run with it would really be sad for the child who then may feel that any time they tell MOM something, it's automatically also telling DAD. That kinda stinks for the kid. I dunno ... I might draw the line at something more substantial like they are spending time outside school together, but then CJane has to take into consideration what SH will do if she does NOT tell him.

The deal we have with lil bit is that as long as she is talking to one of us, everything is OK ... once she stops talking we start snooping ...more than we already do, anyway.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Strange thing about this thread yesterday Cjane .... about my 18yo, who's off to college right now. Anyway, she called me like the 3rd time in 4 days, so I'm trying to figure what is up. She tells me that it was better that she tell me now instead of when I got the bill that she had been to the doctor yesterday ... and what is was for ... I'll let y'all take your imaginations to figure that one out ... this was NOT the conversation to have with her while flipping burgers, BF at the table and the 10yo floating around.

Now, I survive the conversation - reassuring the child that I would NOT be the one to tell her father. After dinner, call my GF to talk. Guess who calls - daddy dearest ... turned out his phone was acting up and it mysteriously dialed me. Yeah, right. I was born yesterday. Actually, he just probably misses my wonderfulness.


Where I was going with this .... You might want to suggest to SH that you two need to talk about HOW you will approach the talk about the Birds & the Bees since the chillun's are getting older. I would probably broach the conversation with saying that you are noticing that your child is starting to notice BOYS. That way, you have 'communicated' with your X while protecting your child.

 

[CJane]

Ok... I gave this a lot of thought last night, and talked to Wild about it.

She is ADAMANT that I not tell her father. Real fear there that he'll freak out - and it's justified fear too...

So, what I've decided to do is ride it out. I've reminded her that I can and will monitor her IMs, emails and phone conversations. I've also called the school and left a message for her teacher to call me and give me a character reference on the kid.

We'll wait and see if this becomes an issue w/HER... it might only last a week and I would have put her dad on high alert for nothing.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

She is ADAMANT that I not tell her father. Real fear there that he'll freak out - and it's justified fear too...

Must be a father thing ... my daughter said the same thing to me yesterday too. Mom's just a wee bit more approachable.

I still would recommend telling SH that the B&B's conversation will HAVE to take place. I would probably take the approach that since you are the mom and the children are GIRLS, that you'll be having this conversation - that's it NOT something that guys have with their daughters.

 

[CourtClerk]

Sorry ladies,

Because I have a son who will be entering high school in a year and a half and is absolutely gorgeous (even other people think so... ), I refuse to have this conversation. Maybe he'll think girls have cooties for ever and only like his mommy... just like he does now.

 

[CJane]

I should add that Unruly... the 7 year old... is a total drama queen and has been head over heels with the same boy since they were both 2. She came home from preschool one day and said "Momma, I'm gonna marry Atticus (not his real name)" and that's been the way of the world since.

She also has a southern accent. I have NO idea where she got it from as I have squelched mine to near oblivion and Wild has no accent...

Well, she got in the car on Friday after school and said "Mom, you are NOT going to believe what Atticus said to me today. He told he's through with me! As in breaking up. As in no longer getting married!

I asked her what her response was...

"Well, Mom, I stomped my foot and I said "Atticus Finch HOW DARE YOU treat me this way! Then he said he was only kidding."

Gawd help me.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Sorry ladies,

Because I have a son who will be entering high school in a year and a half and is absolutely gorgeous (even other people think so... ), I refuse to have this conversation. Maybe he'll think girls have cooties for ever and only like his mommy... just like he does now.

CC - California ladies must be dreamers .....

 

[Suzz]

Drama Drama everywhere

I should add that Unruly... the 7 year old... is a total drama queen and has been head over heels with the same boy since they were both 2. She came home from preschool one day and said "Momma, I'm gonna marry Atticus (not his real name)" and that's been the way of the world since.

She also has a southern accent. I have NO idea where she got it from as I have squelched mine to near oblivion and Wild has no accent...

Well, she got in the car on Friday after school and said "Mom, you are NOT going to believe what Atticus said to me today. He told he's through with me! As in breaking up. As in no longer getting married!

I asked her what her response was...

"Well, Mom, I stomped my foot and I said "Atticus Finch HOW DARE YOU treat me this way! Then he said he was only kidding."

Gawd help me.

THAT is just TOO funny!!!! Oh my STARS!!

but whats wrong with a Southern accent? I doubt I could lose mine if I tried. Even my straightlaced Naval Officer sister can't totally get rid of hers.LOL