MuscleGuyinNY
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? New York
This story is rather complicated, but I'm gonna try to keep things in order and straight to the point.
My ex and I were together for 15 months, from Summer 2006 until Fall 2007. We found out she was pregnant last April. Sometime in May or June, she started talking to another man behind my back. She lied and tried hiding what was going on, but come to find out, they were secretly seeing each other and sleeping together behind my back. Once I found out, her and I had began fighting over it. She'd deny everything, even though he would admit to everything. The two of them would constantly call my cell phone, leave messages, call names, harrass me, etc. One day in August, I confronted this man while I saw the two of them out together. He decided to try throwing a punch at me, so I tackled him down and restrained him. My ex's mother came running outside and began screaming, biting me, pulling my hair, scratching me and punching me in the face. The police were called and it was reported as a 'domestic violence incident.' I could've been charged with Trespass 1st, Assault 3rd and Stalking 4th, but only the stalking charge stuck. I spent a night in city jail and was sentenced to 2 weeks on Pre-Trial Release. I also got served with an Order of Protection, which my ex had filed while her mother and this man were in her presence. About 13 into the 14 nights of PTR, my ex had showed up, pleading that I give her another chance, so we could be together for our son. I willingly left with her. The other man assumed that her and I were together, so he made an 'anonymous' tip to the police. I waited and surrendered. I got arrested and charged with Criminal Contempt 2nd. I went to court the following morning and almost faced some jail time, but was bailed out. The OP originally would've expired in February 2008, but the judge extended it until November 2012. My son was born in January. He's now 2 months old. I haven't been able to see him once. My ex is purposely upholding this OP, to keep me out of the picture and her new boyfriend in the picture. I feel like it's me against the world. I'm trying to fight the OP, but more importantly, fight to be in my son's life. My ex and Social Services had filed a custody and support petition in January, but my ex withdrew it a week later. I, however, filed a paternity petition last month and I'm waiting to go to court next month. That same day, I will be filing a custody and visitation petition. I also have a list of other terms and requests that I may propose to the judge. My ex has a court-appointed attorney and I'm hiring one, if that makes a difference.
Any questions and advice would be greatly appreciated.
This story is rather complicated, but I'm gonna try to keep things in order and straight to the point.
My ex and I were together for 15 months, from Summer 2006 until Fall 2007. We found out she was pregnant last April. Sometime in May or June, she started talking to another man behind my back. She lied and tried hiding what was going on, but come to find out, they were secretly seeing each other and sleeping together behind my back. Once I found out, her and I had began fighting over it. She'd deny everything, even though he would admit to everything. The two of them would constantly call my cell phone, leave messages, call names, harrass me, etc. One day in August, I confronted this man while I saw the two of them out together. He decided to try throwing a punch at me, so I tackled him down and restrained him. My ex's mother came running outside and began screaming, biting me, pulling my hair, scratching me and punching me in the face. The police were called and it was reported as a 'domestic violence incident.' I could've been charged with Trespass 1st, Assault 3rd and Stalking 4th, but only the stalking charge stuck. I spent a night in city jail and was sentenced to 2 weeks on Pre-Trial Release. I also got served with an Order of Protection, which my ex had filed while her mother and this man were in her presence. About 13 into the 14 nights of PTR, my ex had showed up, pleading that I give her another chance, so we could be together for our son. I willingly left with her. The other man assumed that her and I were together, so he made an 'anonymous' tip to the police. I waited and surrendered. I got arrested and charged with Criminal Contempt 2nd. I went to court the following morning and almost faced some jail time, but was bailed out. The OP originally would've expired in February 2008, but the judge extended it until November 2012. My son was born in January. He's now 2 months old. I haven't been able to see him once. My ex is purposely upholding this OP, to keep me out of the picture and her new boyfriend in the picture. I feel like it's me against the world. I'm trying to fight the OP, but more importantly, fight to be in my son's life. My ex and Social Services had filed a custody and support petition in January, but my ex withdrew it a week later. I, however, filed a paternity petition last month and I'm waiting to go to court next month. That same day, I will be filing a custody and visitation petition. I also have a list of other terms and requests that I may propose to the judge. My ex has a court-appointed attorney and I'm hiring one, if that makes a difference.
Any questions and advice would be greatly appreciated.
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