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Maternal grandma out of control

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carbro

Member
What is the name of your state? Pa
Earlier, I posted about lack of communicating with my sons mom and she has yet to respond.

I coach my sons 5 y/o baseball team.

This was my sons mother time (weekend). She had to work so her mother came at the end of the game. As soon as we got off the field, grandma came over to my 5 year old and grabbed his hand and said lets go. I'm talking less than 1 minute after the game. I always treat the team to snacks at the concession stand after the game.

Also, my parents were there and didnt get the hugs and goodbyes we always do. This all happend when I was packing up the equipment. As I looked up, I saw my soon being rushed away with the maternal grandma. He was completely turned around to me and she was one step in front of him pulling him. I was trying to talk to him as she kept pulling. I called her name and made her stop. I then went up to my son and had him go away from the scene with my mother so I could address this aggressiveness that is not tolerated. Long story short, maternal grandma has anger issues and thinks she is the boss- She got out of control, screaming, she was slamming car doors she hit my dad, she tried provoking me, and I told her to leave and I did not allow my son to go with her(even though this is moms time). I called mom and held the phone up to allow her to hear how out of control her mother was.

This all happened in front of two 5 y/o tball teams and parents. She was banned from the field.

I emailed mother and said I do not want grandma to be alone with our son until this issue is dealt with. That went over like a led balloon. Mom is in denial of everything.

I wanted to deal with this issue with mom but mom has refused any and all communication.

What is the right thing to do?


Dad
 


waitinMd

Member
What is the name of your state? Pa
Earlier, I posted about lack of communicating with my sons mom and she has yet to respond.

I coach my sons 5 y/o baseball team.

This was my sons mother time (weekend). She had to work so her mother came at the end of the game. As soon as we got off the field, grandma came over to my 5 year old and grabbed his hand and said lets go. I'm talking less than 1 minute after the game. I always treat the team to snacks at the concession stand after the game.

Also, my parents were there and didnt get the hugs and goodbyes we always do. This all happend when I was packing up the equipment. As I looked up, I saw my soon being rushed away with the maternal grandma. He was completely turned around to me and she was one step in front of him pulling him. I was trying to talk to him as she kept pulling. I called her name and made her stop. I then went up to my son and had him go away from the scene with my mother so I could address this aggressiveness that is not tolerated. Long story short, maternal grandma has anger issues and thinks she is the boss- She got out of control, screaming, she was slamming car doors she hit my dad, she tried provoking me, and I told her to leave and I did not allow my son to go with her(even though this is moms time). I called mom and held the phone up to allow her to hear how out of control her mother was.

This all happened in front of two 5 y/o tball teams and parents. She was banned from the field.

I emailed mother and said I do not want grandma to be alone with our son until this issue is dealt with. That went over like a led balloon. Mom is in denial of everything.

I wanted to deal with this issue with mom but mom has refused any and all communication.

What is the right thing to do?


Dad
Did you file charges for assault? If not, then it will not be properly documented. Plus it allows for this behavior to continue. I had that problem, my family was attacked. They filed charges and it never happened again. By not filing charges you are allowing it to continue, by filing you are saying 'we will not act like this'.

She will only get her hand slapped, but will think twice before doing it again.
 

carbro

Member
I did file a report. My dad is a pastor and we thought we could work it out this weekend with mom, this way we are all on the same page but mom is in denial of what happened.
 

waitinMd

Member
you filed a police report. Actually your Dad would have to, he was the one physically attacked.

of course she will deny it, so it doesnt' sound like you will work it out this weekend if she is not willing to listen.
 

carbro

Member
Yes, I filed the police report. My dad wanted to take the high road and have myself and mom address this issue with angry grandma.

Your right about communication/lack there of with mom. That is a big problem. She has refused all communication.

:confused:
 

waitinMd

Member
hopefully contacting her lawyer will fix the communication problem, although I would expect her to be very 'short' in her responses. Yes/no is better than nothing!
 

carbro

Member
Thanks.

The communication always needs to be open when kids are involved.

I get sick to my stomach thinking of court again:(
 

BL

Senior Member
If the court orders do no specifically allow for 3rd parties , or paternal grandma to pick up for mom's visits , you do-not have to allow it .

If this needs to be addressed in court , then that's where you'll have to go .
 

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