What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Married and divorced in Iowa, we both live in Nebraska now, not sure if that matters.
I am sorry, this may be a bit long, I am sooo lost.
I have been divorced for almost 4 years now. In the decree it states that we both complete the children in the middle class, I did, he did not. We did not have a parenting plan put into place, it is stated in the decree of his visitations. We have joint legal custody and I have physical custody, care and control.
His mother has spent more time with our daughter than he has, and I never pushed the issue. Most the time he would not answer my calls, as he was working out of town. All important issues with our daughter, I have told either him or his mother,i.e. doctor visits, school functions and when I moved. I did move from one state to the other, across the river. (Omaha, NE and Council bluffs, IA are separated by a river.) Perhaps I was in the wrong, I don't know. His mom knew of my where abouts because she had my daughter every other weekend.
My ex never called or came for his visits and I never pushed the issue. Child support was speratic, and the only reason I received any was because recovory froze his assets and garished his wages. (When he stayed at one job long enough.)
Last year (November) he met someone. In January, I discovered he was staying with her all the time, and ironicly my daughter started having major problems in school. For parent teacher confrences, I asked him to come with me. His g/f made him an appointment of his own and did not inform me. My daughter did not go to the babysitters after school and noone knew where she was for an hour or so. School problems continued, and I tried to speak to him. Get back up with discipline, no luck. I discovered the school district allows legal parents to send anyone to the school they wish, and his g/f was allowed full access to my daughter without my knowledge.
I was allowing the g/f to take my daughter onthe weekends, even though my ex was out of town. The g/f took my daughter and had her examined by a doctor and enrolled her in Girl Scout camp under all her information, without me knowing. I put an end to the visits.
Since then she has accussed me of being a "bad mom", and I have banned her from coming into my home. A week later they got married without involving our daughter. Now they are trowing legal terms at me, saying I am denying visitations. I have only said no to one week this summer, the week before school starts, any other two weeks are fine!
They are claiming 'Right of First', I have read the definition, and it states that the non-custodial parent must be caring for the child, not a step parent. Does this apply to the two weeks he is granted visitaion during the summer? Am I required to allow visitaions to the new wife when he is out of town? Am I doing something wrong when I say no to the one particular week, I want her back in routine, with all the problems we had last year.
I keep waiting for papers to come in the mail, but honestly I am scared! Sorry for the length.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Not sure if Iowa or Nebraska law applies.
I am sorry, this may be a bit long, I am sooo lost.
I have been divorced for almost 4 years now. In the decree it states that we both complete the children in the middle class, I did, he did not. We did not have a parenting plan put into place, it is stated in the decree of his visitations. We have joint legal custody and I have physical custody, care and control.
His mother has spent more time with our daughter than he has, and I never pushed the issue. Most the time he would not answer my calls, as he was working out of town. All important issues with our daughter, I have told either him or his mother,i.e. doctor visits, school functions and when I moved. I did move from one state to the other, across the river. (Omaha, NE and Council bluffs, IA are separated by a river.) Perhaps I was in the wrong, I don't know. His mom knew of my where abouts because she had my daughter every other weekend.
My ex never called or came for his visits and I never pushed the issue. Child support was speratic, and the only reason I received any was because recovory froze his assets and garished his wages. (When he stayed at one job long enough.)
Last year (November) he met someone. In January, I discovered he was staying with her all the time, and ironicly my daughter started having major problems in school. For parent teacher confrences, I asked him to come with me. His g/f made him an appointment of his own and did not inform me. My daughter did not go to the babysitters after school and noone knew where she was for an hour or so. School problems continued, and I tried to speak to him. Get back up with discipline, no luck. I discovered the school district allows legal parents to send anyone to the school they wish, and his g/f was allowed full access to my daughter without my knowledge.
I was allowing the g/f to take my daughter onthe weekends, even though my ex was out of town. The g/f took my daughter and had her examined by a doctor and enrolled her in Girl Scout camp under all her information, without me knowing. I put an end to the visits.
Since then she has accussed me of being a "bad mom", and I have banned her from coming into my home. A week later they got married without involving our daughter. Now they are trowing legal terms at me, saying I am denying visitations. I have only said no to one week this summer, the week before school starts, any other two weeks are fine!
They are claiming 'Right of First', I have read the definition, and it states that the non-custodial parent must be caring for the child, not a step parent. Does this apply to the two weeks he is granted visitaion during the summer? Am I required to allow visitaions to the new wife when he is out of town? Am I doing something wrong when I say no to the one particular week, I want her back in routine, with all the problems we had last year.
I keep waiting for papers to come in the mail, but honestly I am scared! Sorry for the length.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Not sure if Iowa or Nebraska law applies.